I know this topic has been talked about a lot on here and other forums but they are pretty old threads so I thought I'd start fresh. My fiancé (well I guess now he's my husband) eloped in our local courthouse a little over a month ago after only being engaged for about 6 months. I have been planning my big dream wedding since I was a little girl and was super excited to be planning the real thing. My husband starts nursing school full time in about a month and we realized that he would not have health insurance while in school - this is why we eloped. Only a handful of people know, including some close family and friends.
We are still planning on having our big wedding in two years after he graduates and I still want to be a "pretty pretty princess" bride with a shower and bachelorette party, big dress, vow renewal/ring exchange, bridal party, etc. But I'm worried that if we announce to the world that we are already married (and I change my name) that people won't treat it the same and won't celebrate it the same. And I really don't want to lie to the people I love and care about for two years!
I've been searching other forums for advice and I've gotten polar opposite responses. People are either "you do you girl!" OR "you can't do that, you're already married, deal with it!" in their responses to other brides. I guess I'm just looking for real, non-judgmental advice.
