My fiance wants a wedding in Hawaii. I've never been to Hawaii and have been wanting to go for a very long time. We live in FL and I have a big Catholic family on my dad's side. We are a pretty close family and there's about 70 of us lol.
I don't really have an opinion on where the wedding is as long as it's not too expensive. I love Hawaii, but am also thinking about my family and grandma. We compromised on have a very intimate wedding (similar to elope) in Hawaii with our immediate family and then a month or 2 later we will have a BIG (about 180 people) wedding in FL, so my family can be there.
I don't know if I want to have 2 ceremonies since we will already be married. I'm considering on just having the intimate ceremony in Hawaii, so that it would take a lot of stress away and not to mention save money (if my fiance agrees). I just wonder if I'm going to regret not having an actual wedding and have people upset from my family. My dad mentioned that having his mom is really important to him. I love my grandma and want her there but I don't want that to affect me and my fiance's decision on the wedding. We could maybe have her on live video or have dinner with her when we get back and share the video so she feels more included?
So my question is, did if feel weird to have a wedding after being married? If not, did you tell people before or after the wedding? Or would you suggest JUST having an intimate wedding in Hawaii so that's more stress free and we can move with our lives lol?