Easily Forgotten Details

License

Yes thanks! Believe it or not I actually have done all my research on that! I will not be forgetting our license!

I didn't think anything of our church not having a seating option besides pews until my officiant brought it up. FH has an aunt in a wheelchair who cannot slide into a pew and we've been discussing at length what we're going to do because we don't want her to have to sit in the back all alone. It's something I never would've thought about if my officiant hadn't asked if we had anyone who needed special seating accommodations.

I didn't even think about escort cards until I went to a wedding a couple weeks ago and realized I needed to have escort cards.

I don't the we have any guest that are handicapped at the time, our wedding is upstairs but they do have a ramp for those who may need it and also an area on the outer side of the pews where they could probably sit!

Also I don't know if I'm sounding stupid, but what are escort cards? The list of the names of all the bridesmaids and groomsmen? And parents/flower girls, etc.

Envelopes for tip money.

Extra cash for emergency spending the day of.

BTW, I left my garter at the hotel (it never made it to the ceremony). $25 for nothing!

Escort cards usually tell the people what table they're sitting at during the reception. So you need those or a seating chart.

My friend that just got married forgot a lot of little details..they brought water to the ceremony site and forgot to set it out. She almost forgot to bring her bouquet with her. I've heard of a few brides forgetting they need an overnight bag so the next morning they have to put their wedding dress back on to leave the hotel.

My advice is to make a list of every single item you want to bring with you to the ceremony, and the reception, and a list of phone numbers for your DJ/caterer/officiant whatever. Give those lists to your mom, your best friend, whoever can be your second set of eyes and help you double check for things.

Also make a list of stuff that needs to be picked up at the end of the night, At my friend's wedding we didn't know what was hers, what belonged to the linen/decor company, and what belonged to the venue. Have a list so people know what to grab and shove in your car.

I wouldn't have even thought about either of those! Thank you! And oh no that's terrible! Our venue is an hour and a half drive from where I live so I'll have to triple check to make sure I've got all my necessities!

Some things that I wish I'd thought of sooner:

- Who will announce the wedding party, movement to the portrait photos

- Tampons (called my MOH to bring them on the morning of)

- Labels for a framed photo of all our sets of parents and grandparents. We HAD the labels but forgot them in the scramble.

- String lights for the reception area. We went to set things up the day before and realized they had nails going along the edge of the room and it would look gorgeous having lights go all the way around. So we spent the day before the wedding running around buying lights.

- Rings. Get them made/sized/engraved early because if there's any screwup, you don't want to have to drive 2 hours to pick them up the day before your wedding like we did.

- Where are you and FH staying the night of your wedding? If you are going straight to your honeymoon, will you be packed already? Will you have your luggage at the wedding or will you swing by your home to pick it up? If you're staying in a hotel, do you have everything you need for an overnight and/or leaving for your honeymoon the next day?

- My grandmother is having a lot of issue walking lately. She can't do any steps, which the venue assured me would be fine since they have a roundabout path that leads to a back entrance. However, if it's dark, it could be tricky to navigate and I wanted someone to escort her and my grandfather. The venue said they would have people around to do it. But on the day of it logistically didn't make sense. I wish I had given more heads up to more people in our family, so they could know to look out for it and offer to escort them in or out.

- I wish we had been more specific with our DJ about volume. He would increase the volume between songs towards the end and looking back, I wish I had warned him about it. H kept telling him to turn it down and he would for a while, but then he'd incrementally get it back up there. I look back in my memory and I can see myself wanting to dance at the end but it being a bit too loud for me.

- Make sure everyone tests the microphones beforehand! Our ceremony was supposed to have a microphone and it was delayed because it wasn't working properly. We ended up doing it without it and people couldn't hear my vows (not a big deal in my mind, since H could hear them).

Anyway, still had an incredible wedding but if I had to do it over............ I'd want to get on that stuff in advance Good luck! You're almost there!

Following.... I'm freaking now about these details.

Safety pins and a needle and thread and a tide pen- put them with your gown. Also, don't forget your wedding rings. Make sure you have two working pens. Make sure you have shoes that are comfortable enough to wear for several hours. Make up setting spray and humidity resistant hairspray are your friends.

Give your photographer a shot list and make sure they know who everyone you want pics of are. If someone has a dietary restriction, make sure your caterer or DOC know who that person is (identify them by their clothing or something easy for them).

Thank you so much for all your input and suggestions y'all! You are helping out TONS! I'm a very list-oriented type of person, so I will definitely be making LOTS of lists for the day and everyone!

The only thing you need is a license and an officiant. A garter won't make you married, and if your officiant doesn't have a black pen, you picked the wrong person.....

@Bailey that would be so terrific!!

Did anyone mention a cake cutting set yet? If not you will have to use what (if any) set the venue or cake vendor supplies.

Following this thread because I'm worried about this as well...

@eks - hey date twin! I know I'm forgetting stuff but like Celia said, as long as we have a license and an officiant, we'll be good!

I'm making a master list and trying to stay organized. There's going to be so much to do in the last few months but staying focused on the important things!

Eks-- look at it this way. All that *really* matters is your officiant, your groom, and the license. If you have that, you'll be as married as anyone else at the end of the day.

The most important thing to remember is to breathe! When you're beginning to feel stressed step away from the lists, the planning. I'm very list oriented as well. Had several going at the same time & it saved me countless panic attacks. Day of, I was just so tired of all the planning & decision making that I had my IDGAF moment. After that, nothing else mattered except meeting my DH on the beach to exchange our vows!

Oh...& BREATH MINTS!!!

Following! @Bailey J. If it's ok I will be emailing you also for that speed sheet!

@JRo Yes! I'm trying to stay organized and focused but seeing everyone post about all these things that haven't even crossed my mind yet sets me into panic that I'm going to forget something! I'm such a worrier but I'm trying to stop stressing so much!

And oh my gosh Brittany I didn't even think about what we would use cutting the cake. That's a pretty important detail! Thank you so much!