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dutch treat dinners after weddings- what would your reaction be?EDIT:invite is world of mouth-not paper invite

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Aronna, on August 22, 2013 at 1:04 PM

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we made major changes in our wedding planning to a wedding and cake and toast reception with some music. we are going out afterwards for a after party, and anyone is welcome, but it's dutch treat at this point. my wedding is going to be considered very small, so I know that just about anyone among...

We made major changes in our wedding planning to a wedding and cake and toast reception with some music. we are going out afterwards for a after party, and anyone is welcome, but it's dutch treat at this point.

my wedding is going to be considered very small, so I know that just about anyone among my guests doesn't have a issue, and a cake and drink reception is plenty appropriate.

question is this, given that receptions are so expensive and reception halls have so many rules such as required catering, having to use their cake etc, I wonder if something like just having dutch treat night outs would be something that could in general be accepted.

I know the wedding industry would hate it, but considering how expensive wedding are, and most of that cost is in the reception, I wonder if that would even fly in general.

Couldn't see it for weddings of 100s, but I just wondered what other would think if they got invited to something like that.

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Master October 2014
Aronna · on August 22, 2013 at 3:18 PM
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My festivities are in the after noon and not during a meal time. I wouldn't have a party over a meal time hour and not serve food.

we may still have things like appetizers, but as for now it's primarily cake and drink.

"Why on earth would I want to spend $75-100 a plate at a place that I didn't choose and that I might not even get to eat something that I really liked? "

that's kind of the whole point. I don't want to offend anyone that is having a catered reception, there's not much of anything saying that you'd get something you like out of the catered food either. at a restaurant you get to choose. most catered event I've been to you don't.
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Master October 2014
Aronna · on August 22, 2013 at 3:20 PM
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"I wouldnt want to eat cake and punch and then go out to a restaurant an hour later... BUT I will dance off the calories at a club!"

sounds good to me! fun and exercise!
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Corina · on August 22, 2013 at 7:18 PM
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I went to a tiny wedding at a casino, they had very little money, but her dad was dying of cancer and still wanted to be able to share it with people. I love them, so I went and I had no problem paying for our meals after the ceremony. The cash gift was a quarter of what I would have given them if we didn't pay $85 for the both of us at the buffet.

It was very clear from the beginning that we would be paying for our own meals, again, I love them and didn't care at all
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Ab · on August 22, 2013 at 7:32 PM
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So what time is the after party?

I think it's fine to have the cake and punch reception then invite people out later that night if they so choose. You can't do it right after because as you said that would fall into a meal time..If by after party you mean just going out for drinks (and not restaurant). How many people are invited to your reception?
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