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kaybeearr
Dedicated December 2017

Dry Wedding

kaybeearr, on May 10, 2017 at 10:37 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 55

We are having a dry wedding. We are LDS aka Mormon and almost everyone invited knows. We are having our reception at our church and can not have alcohol or smoking there. We feel it's tacky to place Dry Wedding on the invite. But some think we should. Others think we should move the reception to accommodate drinkers. We are paying for our wedding. We think maybe placing signs around the outside of the reception that say "no drinking or smoking" and telling. Advice? Has anyone else has a dry Wedding?

UPDATE: The church hall is free including chairs and tables. And church's hall anyone can enter for people who don't get mormon weddings.

55 Comments

Latest activity by Jacky, on May 10, 2017 at 7:52 PM
  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    If you can do it, I would definitely change the reception location. It's not fair to your guests.

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  • FutureMrsKosloske
    Super July 2017
    FutureMrsKosloske ·
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    If you choose to have a dry wedding that is OK, especially given your religious background. I would not put it on the invite, spreading it by word of mouth should be enough. If there is no alcohol at the reception people will get the idea it's a dry wedding, so signs are not needed.

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  • Leelee
    VIP September 2018
    Leelee ·
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    If most of your guests are LDS, wouldn't this be assumed? You should not need to warn anyone in that case.

    In any case, people will see that the reception is at the church and will not expect there to be alcohol.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
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    If you have the ability to have your reception elsewhere, then do it.

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  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
    the Grooms ·
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    This could also depend on the timing of wedding/reception, if it's early afternoon and more of a cake and punch reception I would have no issues.

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  • LillyBean17
    Master October 2017
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    WTF Wednesday indeed.

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  • BtoB
    Devoted October 2017
    BtoB ·
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    Pardon me if this comes off extremely rude or ignorant, but I was under the impression that 'non-Mormons' were not allowed inside an LDS temple/church? To me, this would insinuate that all of your guests attending your reception inside your church would also be Mormon, therefore no issue. I am not well versed on the matter so almost didn't say anything, but this just sounds fishy.

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  • kaybeearr
    Dedicated December 2017
    kaybeearr ·
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    @BtoB so only members of our faith can enter the temple. But the reception is at a church hall and anyone can enter a church hall.

    Changing location is hard to do because the church hall is free including chairs and tables.

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  • BtoB
    Devoted October 2017
    BtoB ·
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    @Krizia gotcha. Thanks for the clarification! I figured I was missing something.

    UO, just stick with your plan. Most places you can't smoke inside anyway and I think people will get the picture with the alcohol.

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  • LikeBerry
    Expert April 2018
    LikeBerry ·
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    If most of your guests are Mormon, I would suspect this won't be enough of an issue to make you change locations, since most guests won't be drinking anyway. I'd just make sure to tell your non-Mormon friends that it's a dry wedding. Most people will understand because it's for religious reasons, but I think they'd want to know so they can plan accordingly.

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  • Sweetmosey
    Expert May 2017
    Sweetmosey ·
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    My wedding is a dry wedding. Everyone I invited do not drink except for a few and they know FH and I do not drink due to religious beliefs. So I didn't put anything on the invite.

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  • FSTL
    VIP September 2018
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    Honestly, I think your plan is fine. It would be nice if you could have the reception elsewhere and provide alcohol for your guests that drink, but considering your religion I think your guests don't expect there to be alcohol anyway.

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    I think @Leelee got it right - I'd think that if most of your guests are also LDS, they know what to expect. I wouldn't stress over it.

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
    VC ·
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    If you think you can change venue location and still make it work, go for it.

    Otherwise, if everyone knows you are Mormon then I'd just not say anything.

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  • Bemyguest
    Master April 2017
    Bemyguest ·
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    I'm assuming the list of non LDS/Mormons is small, so just let those people know by word of mouth. Everyone else should know, correct?

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  • Elizabeth
    Expert May 2018
    Elizabeth ·
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    I don't agree with others who say you should change your location, that's not fair to you, your groom, or your families. If a majority of your guests are not LDS, then I'd maybe mention it on your wedding website or through word-of-mouth. If the majority are LDS, then don't even worry about it. Have good food, fun music, and enjoy your day...people are there FOR YOU, not adult beverages.

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  • CoastalBride
    Dedicated May 2017
    CoastalBride ·
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    I would not move the wedding. People don't HAVE to have alcohol. I've been to 3 dry weddings in the last few years. We didn't stay at the receptions as long as we would have if it was more of a party, but we still enjoyed ourselves. I would never expect a couple to bend their beliefs because I need a free drink.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I say stick with your plan! I don't think you need to include anything on the invitations about it being a dry wedding, or have signs at the reception. Since everyone knows you are Mormon and the reception is in a church hall, I'd be more surprised if there was alcohol there!

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  • Andie
    Super August 2018
    Andie ·
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    I think your plan is fine. I recently got invited to a friend's reception and both her and her new husband are LDS. I don't even expect alcohol to be present because neither neither her nor her husband drink because of their religious beliefs. If your reason for no alcohol is religious then I think most people will accept that and be fine with it.

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  • hannahdee
    Super June 2018
    hannahdee ·
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    If people know you're Mormon, a dry wedding is implied

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