Dry wedding is still a fun wedding right?

If I was considering a venue & it didn't allow alcohol, I would keep looking.

It's definitely a "know your crowd" sort of thing. A dry wedding was a no no in my family. But state parks, etc have a no alcohol policy and that's okay. I personally would have fun at a wedding without alcohol, because I'm not that much of a drinker. when you go to someone's house , it's hospitable to offer them alcohol. If that's a part of your gatherings , which it is a for a part of my wedding guests having the biggest party of your life without alcohol is considered very rude.

I have seen those mugs as fundraisers for Michael J Fox Foundation.

She does know her crowd.

Both families drink.

Apparently that doesn't matter.

You can never absolutely know your crowd anyway. People who don't drink when you've been out to dinner with them, may well still like a drink at a wedding.

I've been to LOTS of weddings, but only one of them was dry. It wasn't fun.

MAMW, thank you for that post. I mean that.

If alcohol made me ill, I would, like you, certainly not erase weddings from my social calendar, and I would never expect -- as you don't expect -- the hosts to serve soda or water in its stead. I'm sorry, MAMW, that this is your situation (and believe me -- I take prescription drugs to deal with daily nauseau, and it's just a fact...it has nothing to do with alcohol), but you were polite enough, and real enough, to say that your husband appreciates a beer or two at a wedding reception.

I love the mental image of you dancing around the kitchen making pancakes for your kids (and they will never forget those images, so rock on, Pancake Queen).

OP, the point is that some will not indulge for a variety of reasons -- whether they are physical, emotional, or spiritual -- but more will want to than don't...or can't.

Elphaba...start a blog, dear. Your words resonate...every single time. Whatever the subject.

Most of the weddings I've attended have been dry, with a couple of cash bar and maybe one with an open bar.

The best dance party wedding I've attended was dry, with no DJ and food that was self/friend-catered (basically every no that people on WW would tell you), and it was an absolute BLAST. Nearly everyone there was on the dance floor all night.

That being said, my background is very conservative Christian. I think it boils down to your background and your guest list. Things really aren't always black and white. But I've learned on WW, it sounds like in general, dry weddings are a bad idea. Evidently, guests who need alcohol to loosen them up or just enjoy it more with dinner (which to me is crazy, because a big glass of water is more refreshing to me than anything) won't enjoy your reception as much without it. You want to be a good host, because you're thanking your friends and family for celebrating with you. After taking everything into account, do what you need to do to accomplish that properly.

I don't like dry weddings...but I still have fun at them!

I'm having a dry wedding, every single one of my guests loves the idea. Some of them are big drinkers but they are ok with it. We are not having any do to the fact it's not aloud at my venue. We are having lots of fun and everyone is excited. I'm sorry to disagree most but the wedding and reception are to celebrate the happy couple. You should do what you want, just make sure it's enjoyable for your guests.

'every single one of my guests loves the idea. Some of them are big drinkers but they are ok with it.'

So these big drinkers love the idea of a dry wedding? Makes no sense.

I'm guessing the Booze Hound doesn't need to weigh in here so I'll just say, PPs have it covered!

Don't let the majority of these people get to you you can have a nice reception with Out alcohol

'Nice' according to who Sheri?

Pleasant? Possibly. Fun? No.

No to be mean but i wouldn't even consider a venue that does not serve alcohol!

It's my grandparents house/barn which means a lot to me so another venue is out of the question....we loose the house after the wedding so it's sentimental

OP, if you're determined to get married there, then I would just do a short cake and punch daytime reception. It can still be nice and beautiful. I would definitely advise against having it extend to the evening or trying to "make up for it" with a long DJ set or dinner because if your guests are expecting to drink, then the party will not turn out as you hope. You'll end up wasting the money you spent trying to make a dry party into a fun one, so short cake and punch is fine.

So basically how can you not serve alcohol in your grandparent's house/barn?