Dry Reception

View Quoted Comment No, it's a newer hall (only been open a year), so while they might change it later currently they do not.

Event Insurance needs to be filed under my growing list of “Things I Never Heard Of Or Remotely Considered Til I Planned A Wedding”. lol

Literally evert other reception venue that we’ve toured requires this lol.

Sorry, back to topic.

View Quoted Comment For real though! 🤣 I never imagined needing event insurance, and while my own company quoted me SUPER high, someone was kind enough to recommend a place so we might have it figured out.

View Quoted Comment Right? I was thinking I should make my wedding dry just to weed out people who wouldn't attend because it would cut into their drunk time.

I got wedding insurance for the venue and it was about 125 or something like that. It definitely wasn't 300. I added cancelation insurance because I have a chronic illness, and that spiked the price to around 300.

View Quoted Comment It’s definitely a know your crowd thing. I know my crowd, and I know they love us enough to come and ‘suffer’ through a dry wedding in order to be there for our day. Somehow, some way, they’ll survive. Possibly even without judging us for it.
Shocking, I know.

This is a hard one as I'm a drinker would I still go yes but I would like to be informed prior that its a dry wedding. As you stated 1/2 would be ok but the other 1/2 is probably expecting alcohol and you even looking into the price means that you would've had it because you know it is the right thing to do but since finances aren't there (totally understandable) then I would just let people know by word of mouth or update the wedding website.

I am also having a dry wedding too, for multiple reasons. My FH and I are very religious and don't drink, we have alcoholics in the family and even an aunt who has passed away because of alcohol, as well as ex-addicts, and lastly, financial reasons. I am in still in school and my FH is a private school teacher (which does not pay well) so we aren't made of money. We are doing a noon reception with breakfast for the meal to seriously cut costs (plus my FH absolutely loves breakfast lol), so I don't think it's too strange to not have alcohol verses an evening reception, so I don't expect too much backlash than if I was having a late reception. However, my entire family drinks. So I do expect at least some backlash. But I don't care. If anyone declines my invite, complains on my big day, leaves early, can't have fun or enjoy hanging out with people they love without alcohol, etc., then they have a problem and clearly don't care much about me. Someone on here mentioned that guests are giving gifts, and while that's true, no one should be giving with a heart that expects things in return, and those of us throwing wedding receptions, we are giving a heck of a lot back (time, financially). People can't be greedy. I'm not going out of my way to tell people I'm not having alcohol, but I know my
parents are letting family members know. So yeah, do not feel bad for what you gotta do. It's your day, your time, your money, you can feel free to do whatever you want with it.

View Quoted Comment It is not about cutting into the drunk time..some people are able to enjoy a cocktail or two, dance the night away and still be decent human beings...

View Quoted Comment It sounds like you are the one judging. I simply said what I think as the poster asked for opinions. There is a chance there are some shallow drunkards who feel the same way I do amongst your friends and family so it might be something to keep in mind lol or not! Either way I wish you a wonderful wedding and a happy marriage

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree. And, some people wouldn't attend a wedding that didn't provide them with alcohol. I'd love to be able to weed those people who'd prioritize alcohol over enjoying themselves for a milestone event in my life. Unfortunately, we have an open bar so I'll never know who is only there for the alcohol and who would be there regardless. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Please understand I am not attacking your original opinion. I am simply admiring your honesty and wishing I had the ability to know who was truly there for us and not just the party

View Quoted Comment Dang girl, she came for you! I feel the same as you. It’s not like people need alcohol to have fun, but a least for me when I get invited to a wedding I am assuming that I’m getting a night out with drinks! So if I showed up to a dry wedding I wasn’t expecting to be dry I would be surprised, but I wouldn’t leave. I would just make some backup bar plans lol. Like another girl said, people go to weddings because it’s a fun time for them to let loose. And I’m my opinion that is a big part of what makes weddings fun. No one sober dances all night long! At least not me. I would leave early too. I would go to the wedding, but probably leave after dinner unless the couple was family or a very close friend. But if it’s old friend Joe I haven’t even seen in 3 years, I’m peacing out!

View Quoted Comment That is so black and white. I am shocked my post yielded a conclusion all I go to weddings for is drink...I can drink anywhere I don't need someone's wedding for that. But it's part of what makes a celebration so fun. Dancing, singing, people being more reluctant to talk to people they don't know... So while you might have suspicions about some ppl to only be attending your wedding for booze I highly doubt it is the case for anyone. I am sure it will be a blast!!!! Have a wonderful wedding!!! I'm so excited for my celebration!!

I wouldn't tell people because depending on the crowd, they will bring their own. I've only been to 1 dry wedding (5 years ago). There wasn't any dancing & people left after speeches & dinner, but I think it depends on your crowd.

View Quoted Comment Yup. I absolutely do judge people who gauge how much fun they’ll have on how many free drinks are available at a wedding. Sure, there are people on my guest list who enjoy wine with dinner, or whatever. But I guarantee they are not planning to attend based on the presumed availability of it. I’ve passed by word of mouth that it’s a dry wedding. If that means someone stays home, fine. One less person for me to serve food to. And possibly one less person in my social circle. Oh well. Won’t hurt my feelings-or my wallet.

View Quoted Comment You seem to have it all figured out 😉 good for you!!

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I think people don't need to drink to have fun and it's rude to leave a wedding reception early simply because there's no alcohol. We are having a dry wedding ourselves, and I was wondering about this same question. However, my mom has a very definite opinion about this, so we are not publicizing it. I did have one rude question about it from an aunt of my FH, which made me a little worried, but I can't care about what other people think. We're also doing lunch, so apparently, it's more "reasonable" not to have alcohol at that time.

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Be careful about people sneaking alcohol. You are usually required to have a beverage license for any alcohol to be in the building whatsover.

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Thank you for the reassurance. I am hoping that since we have a great band and people coming to the wedding who pull people onto the dance floor, that it will be full anyway. But, it is a worry of mine.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the concern. I looked up our state laws while we were discussing this, and for host parties (in our state) as long as we arent charging people for alcohol, we dont need a license but our venue required liability insurance. We actually found a place with affordable insurance, so we have our ducks in a row.