Drunk Aunt

Tell the bartender not to serve her if your parents insist on inviting her (assuming they're paying).

Someone who assaulted another member of my family would not be on my guest list. But if you do decide to invite her, take LG's advice.

That's a tough one. I'd opt not to invite her and have a very frank conversation with her if she asks about it.

I have an uncle and several cousins who abuse alcohol. They were not invited. And I don't regret the decision.

Don't invite her...if they are assaulting family members? Nope.

Your concern is for the safety of your guests, and putting them in a situation where someone may assault them or sexually harass them is not okay. I don't think she should be invited, and you may need to tell your DOC or security that she is not allowed in.

I'd rather not invite her and deal with the comments about it vs inviting her and then other family members not attending out of fear.

I wouldn't invite her.

I wouldn't invite her. But make sure you have a conversation with her so she doesn't just show up

Don't invite her. And make it crystal clear to grandma that aunt is not invited. I would also potentially look into hiring security

Its your day...invite who you want and who will.make you happy.

If it were just that she was an alcoholic, I would say invite her but warn bar tender, but the assault? I would take grandma out to lunch (if she lives local) and tell her you are looking forward to her coming, and hand her the invite.

I would not invite her. Besides, tip toeing around her is just enabling her addiction (and that is just a disservice to her). Best of luck!

Nope, i wouldn't invite someone who has assaulted other family members.

I wouldn't invite her

Don't invite and have security at the venue to escort out

Definitely do not invite her. Maybe give your grandmother her card in person? I would make clear to her why your aunt is not invited. Have someone keep an eye out for your aunt on the day and send her home if she does show.

If you have a bartender, she shouldn't be able to get drunk to start with because they should cut her off. However, of the very few alcoholics I know, they somehow always seem to find a way around that and still get drunk whether they sneak their own alcohol or they get someone else to get it for them.

Just don't invite her

If not inviting her becomes an issue, you only need to use two words: assault and arrest.

Even if your parents felt so bad that they agreed to babysit her all night (and they haven't offered), they can't follow her into a bathroom stall where she'll be drinking from her flask. This type of individual WILL drink, regardless of what measures the bartender takes. When she drinks, she loses control, and that might result in her having to be physically removed from your wedding. You don't want your wedding to be remembered because the drunk lady struck again (not to mention the fact that she might decide this is the perfect opportunity to confront those family members who will not speak to her, and that will go horribly wrong). There's just too much risk on too many fronts. "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" fits this situation perfectly .

I'd be blunt and tell it to her face. I don't feel bad for being a bitch when it comes to shit like this. My entire family (my mom's side) is a bunch of crazies who gossip and say shit about people behind their backs all the time who have never done a single nice thing to me or bothered to get to know who I am. They don't respect my views on life and always think I'm joking when I say I'm an atheist or that I hate children. They can't be trusted in public (I literally have an aunt who brings a trash bag to every family get together to take food back home with her at the end of the day) and I don't care who I'm gonna hurt or what relationships will be ruined by not inviting to our wedding. I'm only inviting my mother and brother from my family and that's it. Just stick to your guns!