Dropped bridesmaid

Why does she need to drop out of the wedding? All she has to do is show up in an approved dress and stand up for the ceremony and pics. My SIL was a bridesmaid in my wedding. She was due two weeks after the wedding and ended up having her baby 5 days after the wedding. She did just fine.

Why does she need to drop out? I understand not being able to attend events like the bachelorette party, but I don't know why she can't stand up at the ceremony?

My SIL was pregnant when she stood up in my wedding, so I don't see what the problem is.

Your wedding is still far away. Can she wait until the week of to see how she feels and then make her decision?

I'm not a fan of "finding" things for people to do in weddings, but she could do a reading. I'd first ask her if she even wants to be involved in some other way. At a couple of weeks out she may not feel up to it or the baby could come early and she may not be able to attend.

I understand why she would want to drop out because with babies you never know if they will come early or late or on time. Plus, 9 months pregnant is not a comfortable time. But I wouldn't have her do anything else. You can have her come with you dress shopping and to your shower but I would let her be a guest. Unfortunately with babies, you don't know when they will make their arrival so she could possibly miss your wedding.

Let her just be a guest. Don't give her something to do. If she has to miss it will just make her feel worse.

Did she WANT to be involved in another way? I'd be leery about giving her something else to do; she may not be feeling it. But I suppose a reading may be an option, otherwise just let her enjoy herself as a guest.

Ok it's ridiculous that people are like "why does she need to drop out" ummm because she WANTS to and she's going to be extremely pregnant. It's her personal choice, not ours, not OPs.

OP - ask if she wants something to do or if she just wants to hang out with the BP the day of. I would assume that if she's that pregnant, she may want to just be a guest if the little one allows.

I would let her involvement be her decision. If she is already saying that she no longer wants to be a bridesmaid, I think it is safe to assume that she doesn't want to do anything but attend as a guest. Of course, explain to her that you want her to be as involved as possible, but don't pressure her. The thing with babies is that they are unpredictable. It isn't unheard of for a baby to be born two weeks early, and I'm sure that is where her concern is coming from.

This is her second baby and her 1st pregnancy was tough and she couldnt do much towards the end so standing up might be a problem for her. I know every pregnancy is different but she doesnt want to take a chance to have to back out last minute.

I can understand why she would want to drop out as well. I think you should still invite her to get hair, makeup, nails done with you, if you are paying for it. Otherwise keep her as a guest.

If she has decided to drop out because it might be too much for her that late into the pregnancy (totally her call) then just let her come as a guest, but I would still invite her to the bachelorette party, etc

If it was her decision to "drop out", I wouldn't worry about finding something else for her to do. She's most likely doing it because she isn't sure if she'll be able to be there.

No need to assign her a reading or something, to have to re-assign it later if she's in labor.

I completely agree with @Yasmina!

Include her as you would have in all the pre-wedding stuff (dress shopping, bridal shower, bachelorette), but then let her involvement in the wedding week and day-of stuff be completely up to her! I'm sure she's concerned about whether or not she'll be able to be there, and her comfort level!

I'm sorry, I didn't mean for my initial comment to come across as rude, I was genuinely curious. I should have worded it differently. Of course it is her choice. I agree with @AnewH about asking her to get ready with you!

Unless your wedding is out of town for her and she's concerned about flying that late into pregnancy, this doesn't make sense. There are women who work until their water breaks. Why is she making this decision now instead of waiting until the week of the wedding to tell you whether or not she's up to attending?

She could do a reading

I would still have her be in the wedding if she's feeling up for it that day...

I had my son 2 days before his due date and would still have been fine to stand (for a short) ceremony 2 weeks before...I worked up until 3 weeks before and would have worked linger except I'm on my feet for 6-8 hours at a time.

However know that you might have to adjust last minute if she isn't up for it or has the baby early.

She probably made the decision now she she doesn't need to buy a dress. The girl is pregnant and isn't up to it. Totally her decision.

I would say if she doesn't think she can be a bridesmaid she probably can't do a reading. I would just have her a guest because it sounds like that is what she wants.

I think you should just let her be a guest. She dropped out for a reason.