Drive-thru Bridal Shower guests help

I say invite them and let them decide. I would like to believe that being thought of is more important than being left out especially if you were going to invite them anyway.

I agree with pp I would still invite and let them decide if they wanna come

For my shower, there's going to be a drive-through part and then a Zoom part. You could do something like that if you want to add a more social aspect.

View Quoted Comment I thought about doing that, but my fiancé and I decided to open the gifts as their given to us. I feel like it gives us a little more time with each guest, and we can really show our appreciation to them personally. But that's just our preference! I love how creative people have gotten with Zoom events!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the input, I think I will. I was just afraid since I'm not personally close with FH's friends, that it would seem a gift grabby. FH will be there though, so he'll get to talk to them too for a few minutes

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the input! I think I will!😊

Bridal showers are supposed to be for your nearest and dearest, and only those who are invited to the wedding. I'd start there.


This is just me, I'm not a fan of a drive through shower. It's literally asking someone to buy a gift, drive to you, give you a gift, receive some trinket they'll probably never use again, maybe watch you open your gift while idling in the street and other cars are trying to drive around them, then drive away.
I'd try to incorporate some sort of social aspect via Zoom, or have a bridal Zoom rather than a shower.

View Quoted Comment I appreciate your thoughts, but we have already ordered invites for a drive-thru shower. We also managed to get hand sanitizers as the favors😊. The subdivision is a wide U-shape, so waiting cars can be on the side of the house without blocking the street, while the guests we're interacting with will be pulled into the driveway out of the street. I agree that this type of shower isn't ideal, but I personally think its better to open a loved ones gift with them present. In my opinion, it's hard enough watching people open a table of gifts in person, let alone on the computer.

A shower gift is a second gift in addition to a wedding gift. And unless you are having a couples shower where the guy buys you a gift though he and his SO come, the women who come with his friends to the wedding are not considered close enough to buy 2 gifts ( or even any gift) for the wedding, so they are not invited to a shower . Co-workers you see socially outside work, invite to each other's homes, currently, may be invited if very close to the bride, or couple if a couple's shower. But if not exceptionally close, regularly seen, not to any shower, just the wedding. Requesting a second gift is only for nearest and dearest. Frankly, if you are not visiting with everyone, and being a host, having people drop off gifts does not seem nice at all. They can send whatever with the wedding gift. This collecting gifts without a party any other time would be labelled just plain rude.

View Quoted Comment We are going to be visiting with each guest individually, and honestly it would probably be more time than at a normal shower. I've been to many showers, and other than a hello, thank you's when opening my gift, and a goodbye, I've had almost no interactions with the bride during their showers. They are much to busy to have long conversations with everyone. Also, these are not normal times, and we understand this is not ideal. But we're not going to forego a shower just because we can't have it as we originally planned. We're trying to make the best of a crappy situation and keep in line with social distancing. I appreciate the input about being close enough to ask for 2 gifts, and will definitely keep that in mind. However, the format of the shower is what it is. We will have treats for everyone and hand sanitizer for favors, we're going to decorate, and do our best to make it fun and unique for our guests as we can.

View Quoted Comment That's a nice idea! If you're going to spend individual time with each person, you definitely don't need to feel guilty about seeming gift grabby. If anything, that's actually MORE personal.