Drinking and Driving

I've hired a shuttle service for any guest that stays at a local hotel/ our block. Plus if they are a local were offering a cab service

Sending hugs and prayers. That's awful!

As far as the guests go, there will be a shuttle to and from the venue. Since everyone will be from OOT, they will all have hotels and not need to drive.

Awful news. prayers for all injured and their families.

I was also very worried about guests pushing the limit on drinking before driving. and worried about some guests driving in a strange city at night. so... we hired a bus to transport everyone to/from the hotel that OOT guests stayed at. i sent a note to the guests about taking the bus so that they could enjoy the party without worry (ours or theirs)

the coordinator also had taxi/car services on speed dial.

Praying!

We're getting married downtown in the city and have highly recommended for guests to take cabs to the wedding. There really is no excuse for someone to NOT use a cab.

Also- if there are any South Jersey brides, I highly recommend you provide information for SoberSam Service. You could ask your venue to have their information in the bathroom. Basically its a service where they come to wherever you are and have two people in the car. The one person drives you and your car home and the other driver follows. This way you and your car are safely at your house.

I'm so sorry to hear that! I'll be keeping them in my prayers!

We rented a huge motorcoach to transport any guests that are staying at the hotel to and from the venue (my immediate family and pretty much all of his family that are coming since they're from out of state). Unfortunately, I just have to pray that everyone else that is headed home that night is responsible or at least has a DD :-/

We are having our reception at a military hotel and most of our guest are staying there. All they have to do is stumble back to their room.

So sorry to hear that =[

We are posting local cab companies phone numbers at the bar (probably on some pretty paper in a frame and it'll just be on the bar top). We also have a free shuttle for guest that are staying at the hotel.

ETA pic: something similar with local numbers; got this of Pinterest =]

I specifically chose a brunch wedding to avoid the inevitable drunken poor choices. No one will be able to drink enough to get intoxicated in 2 hours. If they did, I'd be very disappointed - a lot of my guests are in their 60s and very responsible types. I'm glad your family is ok and I hope the driver is in a lot of trouble!

So sorry to hear that! Will keep them in my prayers.

Half our guests were OOT so we arranged for a bus to pick them up from their hotel and drive them back at the end of the night.

Hi, Date Twin. Beyond sorry to hear of this. Yes thank goodness they are All still here!!!!! Sending hugs and prayers. We are still deciding on if we're even having any type of alcohol.

That's horrible, and I'm so sorry.

Our reception was at a hotel - it didn't get any easier than that.

Firstly - so sorry to hear about your family! I hope everyone recovers quickly.

I live in NYC so there are cabs readily available at all times. Just to make a point though - anyone drinking is an adult, and responsible for their own behavior. You can't be a nervous wreck worrying about that. I'd have car service cards available for my guest in case anyone drinks too much and is not able to drive.

Hey date twin - Sorry to hear about your family. They are in my prayers

Our venue where everything is being held is a hotel. We sent accommodation cards with our Save the Dates and a few people have rooms booked already. I'm also sending accommodation cards again with our invites (except those that have already booked) and hopefully more guests will book a room and stay over.

@ Sandy I REALLY like that, I think it's a great idea.

@Alexandra a brunch wedding was my preference as well but I got out voted by FH and our parents.

Thank you to everyone for your prayers and well wishes.

Date/name twin! So sorry to hear about your family! One of my bridesmaids got married two months ago and she had no alcohol at her wedding because her step dad was hit by a drunk driver and suffered very severe injuries (he's now completely blind and had his whole face reconstructed among other things). Everyone understood her reasoning and it was not an issue at all. I think that's the only way to ensure everyone's sober return home... If you don't want to go that route, I would block off hotels close by or in walking distance if you can that guests can stay at. That's what I did since I'm getting married in a hotel in downtown Dallas. I picked two other hotels at various price points to accommodate different budgets.

I know it's a tough position. Good luck!

OR @sandy's idea... that's a great option, too!!

I'm not making myself responsible for drinking and driving. They are all adults and can handle themselves.

I have blocked hotel rooms that are near but unfortunately there aren't any with in walking distance. It's probably only $10 by taxi though so hopefully people take that option. I will make sure to post taxi numbers especially for OOT guests who might not know them.

@ KirstenMichelle Unfortunately where I live I can also be held legally liable as well if I over serve my guests and then they drink and drive. It doesn't happen very often in court but legally restaurants and event hosts can be held responsible for over serving a person and not making sure they don't drive.

Your bartenders at the wedding should gauge how much is being drunk, too. It's not all on your shoulders! Maybe share your concern and what happened to your family with your coordinator and have them pass along the information?