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Vannesa, on February 12, 2020 at 5:23 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 28
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How many of you invited your FMIL to your appointments to find a dress? Debating on whether or not I even want to invite mine considering she doesn't really care for me.

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Latest activity by Mandi, on February 13, 2020 at 7:33 AM
  • S
    Dedicated July 2020
    Shannon ·
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    I invited mine but I do have a good relationship with her. She only has boys so the only other time she got to experience wedding dress shopping with a "daughter" was with FH SIL.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    I didn’t invite mine. I don’t know if she has a problem with me, per se. But she has never been the warmest person either. FH says that’s just her personality, and I’ve heard that from multiple other people also. Either way, I just don’t “vibe” with her. And I only wanted fun, positive people around me during my dress shopping experience
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  • C
    Dedicated September 2021
    C ·
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    I only went with my mom. I get along with my FMIL and wanted to invite her, but I found my dress on my “just looking” appointment with just my mom. I am going to invite my FMIL to a fitting to help pick out a veil and headpiece to go with my dress to include her
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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    It never even occurred to me to invite MIL when I went dress shopping. We don’t NOT get along but we’re not at all close either. And to be fair, my own mother wasn’t invited either. It was just me & MOH.
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  • Julia
    Dedicated October 2020
    Julia ·
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    I found my dress on a whim so I took her, my mom and my grandma to see it after I had already chosen it. I wouldn’t have taken her before it’s another opinion that makes it hard to decide when you’re looking.
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  • Megan
    Super October 2020
    Megan ·
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    I brought my FMIL on a dress shopping date (at her request) just to get a feel for what I wanted. I also have a good relationship with my FMIL though.


    Dress shopping is already so overwhelming as it is, I personally wouldn’t bring anyone who might bring me down.
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  • Cortney
    Devoted August 2020
    Cortney ·
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    Same here. She'd also been with one of her other son's now wives.

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  • Private User
    Dedicated September 2020
    Private User ·
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    I didn't invite mine. She invited herself and her daughter by asking me if I've gone yet, I said no, she said good because we want to go. I didn't want them to go. BUT, most bridal shops I looked into have a limit on guests especially on the weekends and all 6 of my bridesmaids wanted to go and my aunt flew in. Here's what I did: I just scheduled my appointment and didn't mention it to my FMIL. Though we went out to eat a week before my appt was scheduled and she asked about it again, my FH chimed in and said she's just going with her girls, the shops don't allow many guests to go with. THANK GOD. She later told my FH that she wanted to go and it hurt her feelings. Oh well, my own mother wasn't even invited. Soooo, do what you want girl!
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  • Ashley
    Dedicated August 2020
    Ashley ·
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    I’m not inviting mine. We don’t get along at all right now. I also don’t want too many different opinions. My parents, sister (MOH), and best friend (one of my bridesmaids) is coming bc I truly value their honest opinions and they are supportive and know me well.
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai ·
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    I invited mine and my mom. Dont really have a good relationship with my FMIL. If I go back I wouldn't invite her. Only invite who u want!
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  • Angel
    Expert August 2020
    Angel ·
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    I did not, granted she did move out of state right after we got engaged. We have a good relationship, but I still wouldn't have invited her. Only my mom, little sister, and both maid of honors. Keep it small - definitely better to have fewer opinions and only people who love you.

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  • Sabrina
    Dedicated September 2020
    Sabrina ·
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    Oh boy! Well I invited mine. She "adores" me and I say that with " " because she can be well calculated like always calling my fiance to get information and then calling me to call him and tell him what I say. It's funny because he and I tell each other EVERYTHING.


    I would say be the bigger person and invite her. I'm going one day with all of us and then the second day just my mom and I since I don't have siblings. 😊
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    If you’re not close, I wouldn’t. Wedding dress shopping is so special and it’s great to just have positive, supportive people with you.
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  • Megan
    Super October 2021
    Megan ·
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    She went to the first one when I just tried on a bunch of styles. All the others I went with just my mom. Once I found one I loved I invited her to come and Bought it with her there. I invited her more so not to hurt her feelings and because my FH really wanted me to invite her. I’m happy I did not bring her to all the appointments!
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  • Future Mrs. Lowder
    Dedicated December 2020
    Future Mrs. Lowder ·
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    Originally I invited mine. I went with my mother, grandmother, and father on a whim “just to look” and ended up buying my dress. Afterwards, through tears, (because I love her and didn’t want to upset her) I told her and she was perfectly fine with it. It all just depends on how many people you want and who your the most comfortable with being there.
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  • Christine
    Savvy October 2020
    Christine ·
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    I went with my mom, a close aunt and bridesmaids. I showed my FML after I purchased it. You may want to invite her to extend the olive branch. What does your FH think? It really should be whoever you are most comfortable with giving you solid advice.
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  • K
    Expert October 2020
    Katie ·
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    I did the same thing. Mine only has two boys as well and didn’t get to go dress shopping with FH SIL so this was her first time. I think she cried more than my mom did. Lol!!
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  • Paige
    Beginner September 2020
    Paige ·
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    I invited mine but her and I get along really really well!
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  • Stevie
    Devoted February 2020
    Stevie ·
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    I did not invite my Future Mother In Law, I wanted to have a more private and personal experience with my mom and my bridal party.

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  • Stevie
    Devoted February 2020
    Stevie ·
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    I did not invite my Future Mother In Law to my Wedding dress appointment,

    one, because it was a spontaneous trip, but 2. I didn't want her opinions to sway the dress that I liked

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