Dress woes

There's a reason why he likes this dress, may find a way to have it altered so you love it too? Or find something similar that meets his likes and yours

Very true! I do like the one he prefers a lot. I think it’s just the neckline that I don’t like as much but overall I love the fit and the feel of the dress. It feels really good! Lol. I’m just not sure it feels bridal. I think that’s my biggest hang up but idk if that’s really important.

See if you can get the neckline to something you like. The dress is beautiful. Remember you noted this is just a "vow renewal" - so does it have to feel super bridal?

Oh no this is the minimony so our actual official wedding ceremony where we are getting married. However it is more intimate with just immediate family (parents and siblings). I’m saving the “Big” dress for the vow renewal as that is going to be a bigger event with more people. So yeah, maybe it doesn’t need to feel super bridal

Thanks for your honest opinion on the dresses

He didn’t really give an opinion or much input on the second dress, just that he liked the first and that I should wear that so IDK, it’s hard to say. I don’t have much time as we’re getting married in just 37 days and I’ve looked at lots of dresses. The second one is available off the rack in my size in exact measurements and I can still return the first one.

I loved the first dress since day one, but after seeing the new one you are interested in... I really love that one! It is definitely more bridal. Could you order it and let him see it in person? Maybe that will change his mind?

Thanks! I could get it and have him see it in person then choose which one he likes best. That’s a good idea.

Thanks! I thought about changing the neckline but IDK if it would look right with the sleeves. I think if I keep Dress 1 I wouldn’t change it.

Thanks lady!

I would go with the second dress. You need to feel happy and comfortable in it.

I honestly love both of these dresses haha. They're both whimsical, the first photo dress is more vintage, but also has that ethereal feel. I think both could work at your wedding location.

This is your guys' official wedding day, so I do think that the dress should be just as special. Is that second dress photo returnable after ordering it? I know this is probably crunch time now, but could you buy it, see how it fits, and if it doesn't work out return it? Or if it ends up being a perfect fit, keep that, and return that first one?

Or from previous posts I read, since you don't like the neckline of the first dress, maybe visit a seamstress, and see what they recommend about changing the neckline? Just to get another opinion about it.

Thanks! You described them so well! I’m glad you understand how important it is not just for me, but for him too and I want it to be special for both of us.

I double-checked their return policy and it says “All Sales are Final” for off-the-rack dresses. I could drive there, but it’s a few hours away and right now with my schedule and Covid IDK if I have time or feel safe. However I know it is a similar style and silhouette to what I have tried on and the measurements are the right size.

The first dress I can still return and get a full refund on, so...there’s that. IDK if I want to change the integrity of the dress by changing the neckline. I think it is what it is and it suits the dress, just not me lol

Thanks girl!

You're welcome! You can tell in the photo of the first dress that you are not happy in it.

You're welcome! And yes totally understand! When you look back at your pictures, you want to see the dress that both you and your FH will love.

If I were you I would order that second dress now, even though it won't be returnable. It seems like that is also your gut feeling. Since the measurements are the right size it should fit you perfectly too. But if it doesn't you can always still see a seamstress and they can probably alter it and fix minor adjustments.

But if you just stick with that first dress, you'll never know how that second dress would fit, and you will probably be constantly thinking about it, at least that would be me haha. So yeah I'd say go for that second dress!

I get what you mean about buying a dress that your FH likes. He's still your future spouse and you want him to like what you're wearing when you get married. But at the same time, you have to feel like a bride too, so if the first dress doesn't make you feel that way, then I say try on the second one! Plus it's gorgeous! The first one also looks great on you, but as a PP said, you don't look or sound as happy as you should in what should be your wedding dress.