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Dress Shopping Rant

Laquita, on August 23, 2020 at 2:05 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 26

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(This is pretty long....)
I just need somewhere to rant because I feel like my thoughts are falling on deaf ears.
I went dress shopping a couple of weeks back, tried on five dresses and fell in love with the last one I put on. I didn't buy it that day, I took some time to think about it. My godmother, whom I love dearly, is the main one who asked me to continue to look because $800 is a lot (it's on sale & I can pay for it). To appease people, I agreed to look some more and even did the Try Before You Buy option from Azazie, needless to say I didn't like anything. Nothing made me feel the way I did in that other dress, but I'm listening to everyone around me. I made a new appointment for the same shop but plan on trying similar style dresses that don't cost as much just to see if I feel the same. A cousin is in town and now they're both trying to get me to go look in LA (because it's cheaper). I'm just sad? I don't want to keep looking for a dress, I want to just find something and be done. To go to Los Angeles means waking up at dawn to go searching for something that I feel like I already found. Am I just being unreasonable? I just feel like no one is really looking at what I want, I'd rather not go from place to place dress shopping.
I'm sorry this feels long, I'm just tired.

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Master October 2021
Sexypoodle · on August 23, 2020 at 2:13 AM
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Just buy the dress you loved. Then dress shopping will be over and the problem is solved.
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Emily · on August 23, 2020 at 2:55 AM
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If you’re the one buying your dress and it’s priced appropriately for you- go buy the dress! It’s about you and what dress you love, not what anyone else wants.
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Melle · on August 23, 2020 at 3:06 AM
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You’re not unreasonable cause you already found something you love so finding something else is kind of pointless at this point but maybe finding your dress you loved thats used could help?
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Laquita · on August 23, 2020 at 3:14 AM
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I'd love for dress shopping to be done, I already said I didn't want to be one of those who just keeps looking & looking. It just gets depressing when I keep hearing "let's go here, I know you can find something better". I'm not a confrontational person so I just deal with it.
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Laquita · on August 23, 2020 at 3:15 AM
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Yes I would be the one buying the dress, I guess it's easy to allow other opinions to get in your head. I just needed somewhere to rant where I'm actually understood lol
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Laquita · on August 23, 2020 at 3:24 AM
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Thanks. That's pretty much how I feel, I found something and I'd rather not look anymore. I only started looking at cheaper options to appease people & maybe thought I would find something, but nothing gave me that same feeling. If anything, all this has made me want that other dress even more.
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Judith · on August 23, 2020 at 3:50 AM
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Your time and money out looking is worth something, an added cost of every dress you try now. That is a reasonable price for a dress. Ignore the other voices, and get it.
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Kristen · on August 23, 2020 at 3:55 AM
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Your wedding day. Your happiness. Get the dress you want.
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Mrs. Spring · on August 23, 2020 at 4:56 AM
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Wow, this sounds frustrating. I recommend yiu go with the dress you felt the best in.
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Rebelle Fleur · on August 23, 2020 at 5:25 AM
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Girl as soon as I saw my ceremony dress ONLINE I knew it was the one. I had to call a million bridal shops to find it. And I only tried on a handful of other gowns before hand but as soon as I saw myself in it I had my “bridal moment”. Get the dress you love. If it’s the money that’s making you rethink buying it, you can always resell it and recoup some of what you spent. Buy the dress you love. It’s your one day. You can splurge on yourself. You don’t want to be in a dress that has you thinking about the one you really love. To me that’s a bigger waste of money.
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Rea · on August 23, 2020 at 8:37 AM
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Lady, do you. Your money, your decision. You are not being unreasonable...at all.
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Becky · on August 23, 2020 at 8:50 AM
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You've found your dress. Time to buy it. Don't take cousin or grandma with you to buy. They may be having a good time trying on dresses and think you are too.
If cousin and grandma say let's go look (insert place) reply: "I've got my dress, thank you."
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Chrysta · on August 23, 2020 at 9:06 AM
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If I were you, I would go back to the store ALONE (since you would be the one paying for it anyway, and so there is no one else’s opinions bringing you down) and try on the dress you fell in love with again. See if you still get the feels in it. If you do, then you should buy it!
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Mrs.a · on August 23, 2020 at 9:08 AM
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Girl if you absolutely love it and can afford it, buy it! You’ve had enough time to think about it and know it’s the one for you!
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Julie · on August 23, 2020 at 11:21 AM
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Tell your friends/grandma "It was the weirdest thing! I was walking by that dress shop, and clumsy me tripped through the door and my credit card landed in the machine! What are the odds?? It's a good thing I LOVE the dress and it was final sale!"
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Leonardia · on August 23, 2020 at 12:40 PM
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Definitely go with the dress you love, I had a similar experience when I found mine because my MOH was convinced I could find something similar that cost less. We actually did find one but as soon as I tried it on all I did was compare it to the other dress...which I went back and purchased the following weekend lol
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Jeni · on August 23, 2020 at 1:48 PM
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Everyone else is always going to have an opinion, but that doesn't mean you have to go along with them. It's your money, your dress, your wedding day. Do what you love!

I don't know what it is about wedding planning, but other people always want to throw in their two cents and plan your day the way they want. This will be good practice for you as you move forward with planning. It's not confrontational to say "no thank you" or "thanks for your opinion" and then end the conversation or change the subject. If it's not what you and your future spouse want, immediately forget what was said and keep doing what you want. I hope it gets better and easier for you! ❤
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Nicole · on August 23, 2020 at 1:53 PM
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Do exactly this. If no one else is contributing to the purchase, then their opinion doesn’t matter. I actually enjoyed shopping by myself more than shopping with other people. Go back to the shop by yourself, try the dress on again, and buy the heck out of it. Remember, at the end of the day, everyone’s got their own opinions, but at least in the case of the dress, the ONLY opinion that matters is yours.
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Dani · on August 23, 2020 at 2:44 PM
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If you are paying for it then why do they care how much you spend? it’s your day, do what makes you happy and what your heart tells you. You don’t want to regret your decision 10 years from now
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Laquita · on August 23, 2020 at 8:23 PM
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Thanks for all the comments and advice! I actually went to my appointment and bought the dress I originally wanted. I found one that was very pretty and I loved it, but I didn't feel the same. I didn't want to have dress regrets.
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