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Kiyome
Devoted December 2022

Dress regret

Kiyome, on June 6, 2021 at 1:36 AM

Posted in Wedding Attire 37

Today I went and tried on wedding dresses. I originally had 2 appointments, but after I found, "The one" at the first appointment, I bought the dress I loved and canceled my second appointment. I really loved the dress and how I felt in it and every time I tried on other dresses they looked...
Today I went and tried on wedding dresses. I originally had 2 appointments, but after I found, "The one" at the first appointment, I bought the dress I loved and canceled my second appointment. I really loved the dress and how I felt in it and every time I tried on other dresses they looked beautiful, but whenever I would try "the one" on I'd get that feeling and when I would walk out of the dressing room my jaw would drop and I would love it. So I ended up getting the dress because it gave me that feeling. I had my best friend take pictures of me in the dress as well as the others. Well, I goofed and didn't even look at the photos before I bought the dress and I just feel like I picked the wrong dress because I saw the photos and immediately thought "Wow. Did I pick the wrong dress? The other dresses looked so much better on me." I am super conflicted and don't know what to do. I don't want to look back at our wedding photos and just see how bad I looked. I am struggling a lot right now because we all loved it so much in person. In fact, there was another bride trying on dresses in the dressing room and her mom started crying because of how the dress looked on me. We all thought it was GORGEOUS! But I'm really not seeing it in the photos🙁 what should I do?? And something that makes it even harder is my mom paid for a a portion of the dress cost after I picked out the dress I wanted, so I don't want to upset or disappoint anyone

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  • Jm Sunshine
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    Both dresses are gorgeous! I love "The One" and if you were posed on the pedestal like the other picture you might not be second guessing. It sounds like there were several you actually loved and maybe felt pressured to buy on the spot. As PPs have said, maybe you can stop order before it gets sent and try the 3 dresses on again (also keeping in mind comfort of sitting and dancing in them). With over a year and a half to go before your wedding you don't want to be doubting your dress decision for that amount of time!
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
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    I think this dress looks amazing on If I had to pick I would pick this one for you

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  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
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    I think the one you chose is absolutely stunning! While the two dresses might be similar, the higher neckline and slimmer fit really give a WOW factor!
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  • Lauren
    Expert July 2021
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    I got my dress at kleinfeld which is also what they say. I know that they don’t place the order right away depending on the designer. Allure is a typical production of 6 months so they put it in a few months later so it wouldn’t be sitting in their inventory forever. I spoke to them and until order is placed they would have transferred my deposit.
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  • devotedlydavis
    Expert March 2022
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    Your dress is GORGEOUS. The difference between the two photos is the first one is candid and at a weird angle. I think you wouldn’t feel that way if you saw it taken the same way as the second. However, I totally get where you’re coming from because I have the same feelings about mine. I would definitely make an appointment again to give you that confidence boost and validate your choice.
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  • Suzie
    Super October 2021
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    I agree that the issue seems to be the photo angle. I would go by how you felt in the dress, that is what is important! See if you can go back and try it on again, and get a more flattering photo. I think you look gorgeous in it! I think it’s nicer than the other one as well - although both are nice! Smiley smile

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  • Allison
    Devoted April 2021
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    You look gorgeous in the dress you bought! (You look gorgeous in both, to be honest) I agree with others that the angle in the first photo isn't the greatest. I actually think the dress you bought photographs better than the 2nd dress you shared - the lace details pop a lot more on the first dress and really don't stand out at all in the 2nd dress. If you put that dress on and compared every other dress to it, then you bought the right dress! Trust your gut!

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
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    I'd be really cautious about letting amateur smartphone photos influence your decision too much. Unless you are posed the same way in the same light, it isn't really a fair comparison, because the way your body is angled, where the light is, the quality of light, etc all influence how the dress photographs.

    Both photos and dresses look beautiful, but you are posed differently in them. The "one" is a more casual photo, so you are less consciously aware of how you are lined up to the camera, whereas the v-neck dress you are posed in such a way that really enhances your figure and the dress - your slight angling to the camera, direct but soft eye contact, and having the train wrap around front of you. Based on the reactions you describe you and others having in the store to "the one" I think it was probably an incredibly beautiful and flattering dress on you, and your friend just didn't happen to get the best photo of you in it.

    I honestly really like "the one". Its gorgeous, you look incredible in it, and the design and neckline are a little more unique than the other dress. I can also see that dress being easy to wear - not having to worry about straps slipping or boobs popping out. Its beautiful and you look so stunning!

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  • Alycia
    Expert September 2021
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    You are gorgeous and all the dresses look amazing on you. It is so common to have conflicted feelings after deciding on a dress because it's such a big decision. You may want to try it on again and see if you still have that feeling and then go from there and remember alterations are game changes too.

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  • Kiyome
    Devoted December 2022
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    I should have mentioned, but I have a couple of other photos in the dress I ended up getting. But yeah. I am going to try it on again to make sure I still get that feeling. Thank you!!!😊
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  • Kiyome
    Devoted December 2022
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    See and that's also what I am thinking. I think I probably made the right choice since I was comparing all the other dresses to it.
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  • Kiyome
    Devoted December 2022
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    Thank you! Yeah I am going to try it on again I think🙂
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  • Kiyome
    Devoted December 2022
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    I am going to try it on again with no one else there to see me trying it on. I was having a hard time deciding on the dress as well because my mom was there and every time I would try on a dress after my first time trying on the one I ended up purchasing, she would go, "Nope that's not it. Put the other one back on." I thought she was going to kill me if I got a different dress😂 but like I said, trying it on and looking in the mirror, I felt great in it. It's just when I saw the photos that I felt like I made a bad decision.
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  • L
    Super August 2023
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    I love this dress more then the second one. I love the top of the dress and how the design go down pass your hips. That just me, if you feel like the other dress is "The One" see if you could exchange it.

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  • J
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    In most states, for an item you do not use, you can have buyer's remorse for 3 business days, no matter what they say.
    The first dress- look at the distance from top of shoulder to bottom of bust in 1, then 2: one is too long, 2 is less and more flattering. In each way the dress is out of proportion to your figure, and with fabric you can not easíly cut apart and redo. #2 is beautiful, but at least 100 dresses in the shop would be better than #1. Find the elements you like, but in a dress proportioned to fit your figure. Your body is an easy fit, try til you get another that feels so good.
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  • Molly
    Expert May 2022
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    Omgosh! This happened to me! I ended up buying a dress and then when it came in I wasn't really in love with it. I loved it on, but didn't like the way it photographed. The dress ended up being too big, the store luckily offered to return it to the maker, re-size me closer to the date since I also push my date out and order it in another size. I took that opportunity to tell them I wasn't in love with the dress anymore. They offered if they could sell my dress, I would be able to get a store credit to pick out another dress! They were wonderful and ended up selling it the very next day!

    The dress you bought looks great on you! My store also had you sign a contract and they usually don't do returns, but maybe you can ask. I also had the same feeling of possible disappoint because my mom and sister were there when I picked out and bought the dress. But when I told them I didn't love it, they understood and wanted me to be happy!

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  • Sam
    Devoted October 2021
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    Hi there!


    I 100% can relate.... something very similar happened to me. I went dress shopping on a Saturday and found three dresses I loved. I went with one dress and on the car ride home I had immediate regret. My mom took a picture of me in it and the more I looked at the more I HATED it. Ugh! Needless to say I went back that following Monday (I literally couldn’t sleep bc I was so upset that I had made the wrong choice) to one of the other dresses I loved. I’m so incredibly happy I went back for one of the other dresses. Is there time for you to exchange?
    Good luck !Sam
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