Dress of my dreams or...

It’s pretty!!! And it fits you well. I tear up when I tried the one, but I am a libra, so I have deep emotional feelings 😂

I cry at everything - happy, sad, out of frustration, anger, etc.

But I didn't cry when I found my dress. I was super happy and even slightly skeptical since it was a big purchase. I also got nervous about whether it was "the one" due to my lack of tears, but what I've found from talking to the people at the bridal shops is that people don't actually normally cry - they show that on TV a lot because it makes for good shows, but normally people are just really ecstatic about their gown. If you look at yourself in it and feel that love for yourself, I would say go for it! There are a billion dresses out there and SO many of them will look good on you. But if you put this one on and start beaming like you look like you're doing in the photos, I would say there's a good chance this ones a keeper (:

Also - you look absolutely gorgeous!!

View Quoted Comment I am a Sagittarius and usually am such a crier but I wasn’t for this so I was like ??? Thank you!!

View Quoted Comment I am such an anxious person and question everything all the time so I guess this is no different. I appreciate the positive words 🙏🏼

I didn’t cry or have any intense, overwhelming emotions when I found my dress. I just KNEW it was the one as soon as I put it on (before it was even buttoned up, actually!) And I didn’t want to try on any other dress as soon as I tried on that one. There was just no doubt that it was The One.

If you love the dress get it! Don't overthink it too much!

I didn't cry or have any strong emotion but I love my dress. I feel like a princess in it guess you don't necessarily need to cry in order for it to be your dress

I cried because I love my dress so much, it's a morilee I teared up because it was the first one I tried on that day and I kept going back to it

Your dress is gorgeous, but I think you should add a liner.

Edit: deciding on a dress was really, really hard for me! I didn't cry, not everyone does.

Your dress is gorgeous. I love it. Also, I didn't cry or get overly emotional when I found my dress. No one in my group did. I just felt happy and beautiful and envisioned myself walking to my husband at the altar in it. Everyone agreed it was the 1 and it was perfect, but it was definitely not the waterworks moment you see on Say Yes to the Dress lol.

I knew I walked out in front of my group. I went and stood on the platform and the room that was once full of people disappeared. I saw myself on my wedding day looking at my fiancé and that is when I knew this is it. I couldn’t tell you what was said to my the whole time I was up their. People were crying and I didn’t even see them. I turned around to show my group and didn’t even hear the words coming out of their mouths. Did I shed a tear nope you just know when it’s it even if you don’t cry.

View Quoted Comment Got it the same day!

I teared up after I put on a veil but I knew because it felt right. I looked elegant and a little sexy like I wanted, I felt comfortable in it, I could move around, and I knew my husband would
love it. I felt more of a calm feeling than anything else.

View Quoted Comment See that didn’t really happen to me. I was just like, “I want this one” after trying on three. We were in and out in 30 minutes 😂

View Quoted Comment My issue is my bridesmaids cried at me in a different dress and I felt so much pressure to choose that one (which I didn’t I chose the one in the photo). They liked mine but thought the other one was better and I sometimes question myself because of it. The other one was gorgeous but overly sexy. I knew my grandma would be upset if I got something too sexy 😂

View Quoted Comment I like that. I definitely think I felt calm when I tried it on. I always imagined wearing a mermaid style dress but they are impossible to move around in. I hated the ones I tried on.

Does clothing usually make you cry? Are you usually a decisive person?

I feel the media feeds us these ideas that women need to have some sort of extreme emotional reaction when finding their wedding dress. I knew I would never be that person. I also like conflicting designs - my favorite dresses were either chic no fuss dresses in stunning, figure hugging silhouettes made of ivory crepe with zero embellishments or boho inspired lace gowns with flowing trains, featured illusion lace or applique over nude or blush underlay, and overall had a more romantic and whimsical vibe - so finding one singular dress I loved above all other dresses was probably not realistic for me. I also knew the price of the dress would inevitably weigh heavily on how I felt about it - spending thousands on something I was going to wear once was going to bother me even if it was the dress of my dreams.

My wedding dress buying experience went like this. I went to a boutique and tried on over a dozen dresses and liked most of them. In the end I narrowed it down to probably 3-4 styles I liked the most. One of them was the clear winner fit wise of all the dresses, but it was more than I wanted to spend, and I didn't LOVE it. I did get really excited about it and it looked incredible on me, but it was nearly double what I wanted to spend and I really couldn't justify spending so much on it. I had been shopping on StillWhite, Poshmark, and other places as well and after trying on dresses and getting a better idea of what I did and didn't like, I ended up buying a dress on StillWhite. Fortunately the manufacturer's website had a "real brides" section so I could see what that same dress looked like on dozens of different women, including women who had similar body types and complexions to me. And the same dress was listed on StillWhite by other brides for a lot more money, so I was pretty confident I could resell it at a price similar to what I paid if I didn't like it. When the dress came to my house I tried it on and liked it, but it had some minor alterations done that didn't fit me so I took it off and carefully removed the push up cups and shoulder seams where the straps had been taken in. I put it on again, twirled around some, posed a bunch in front of my mirror, and started really liking it. I probably spent 2-3 hours with that dress when I first got it, not 15 minutes standing in front of a mirror and then switching into a different style. It grew on me over time.

Cost wise, it was also a no brainer. The dresses I tried on at the boutique cost 2-4x more than the price I paid for the dress I bought on StillWhite, even though the StillWhite dress was the most expensive dress of them all (new it was closer to 5-6x the price I paid). I just got a great deal buying a pre-owned dress. And, my StillWhite dress already had a bustle added and fit me well without needing additional alterations, so that was an additional couple hundred dollars in savings as well. That ended up working in my favor when we had to cancel our wedding due to Covid and eloped instead. Unlike so many other brides, my dress wasn't unwearable without alterations or held hostage at a seamstress somewhere, so I still got to wear it on my wedding day.

If I had the opportunity to create my perfect custom wedding dress with zero concern about cost, materials, time, etc, would I have ended up in the exact same dress? Probably not. But for feeling beautiful while marrying my person, it was just right.

In the end, it's the dress I married my husband in, and it makes me happy!

View Quoted Comment Hi!!! Why do you think I need a liner just curious?


The dress is meant to be see-through at the bottom. That is the style. Sortof a hybrid dress. Thanks 😊

View Quoted Comment Hi Kari,
I am so glad you found a dress that works for you!! Thanks for the wisdom 🙏🏼

View Quoted Comment Hey, I am all about decisiveness & efficiency! I say you killed it!