Downsizing a postponed Covid Wedding

I obviously haven't hit that problem (my wedding is in March), but I think that I will simply send something out letting people know. I think that MOST people would be understanding of the situation but some will probably not be. Is your wedding coming up soon?

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My original wedding date was May 15,2020 but we postponed it to next year on the same date
We decided postponing again wasn’t an option for us so we’ve decided to downsize and put the money into redoing our backyard and hosting it there. I’ve come to the conclusion that unless there is a vaccine or other viable treatment next year is looking Grimm for big weddings as well.

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I agree completely! We are hoping that our wedding in March can at least go as planned, BUT I also know that there is a HUGE possibility that there will still be limited restrictions.

Our wedding is September 5, 2020, and at the beginning of this month our state went back to 50 person social gatherings. I sent out handwritten thank you cards uninviting 30 people. It read something like “thank you for wanting to celebrate with us. unfortunately due to recent change in guidelines we had to make drastic and difficult decisions. We look forward to a return to normalcy but right now we have to cancel our invitation. Thank you for understanding. “

Getting married in January in Florida. My fiance and I made the decision this week to cut to 50 from 120ish because we didn't want to plan for 120 to be fine just to have to scramble to change it, especially when we don't know how COVID will behave in the winter. We sent out save the dates pre-COVID, thankfully hadn't done formal invites yet. I'm thinking of putting something on our website and our individual social media accounts about why we have to do it, then reaching out to individuals as needed by phone. Not about paying for more postage than needed!

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I am having an outdoor wedding and inviting all that want to attend there will be social distancing and masks. Then having a small family only gathering after at my home. That way if people want to come they can if not they can certainly decline. I will have a wrapped individual treats as a thank you for coming.

Since we were planning on a smaller wedding (around 30 guests) we called, emailed, texted people and then mailed change-the-date cards as soon as we could.

We are now having a commitment ceremony in my Future in-laws house with just them and a minimony with my parents and possibly his family too in October with our vow renewal & celebration in the spring with our originally planned 30 guests.

I’m getting married in Nov; I haven’t sent any save the dates or Invitations out yet (On my to do this weekend). There are people that I mentioned my wedding to that I’m not inviting. I think I’ll send them a picture of us from the ceremony saying something cute, haven’t gotten that far yet 😂😂😂

Did you want to know what the downsized event looks like? Or just the uninviting part?


I definitely think it's best to send out something letting people know what's going on. Apologize and say that because of covid, you've had to make some difficult choices and either that you hope to see them at some point when it's safe, or that you're now inviting them to the ceremony via Zoom.

Our wedding was July 4th, but the legal office was closed for months so we couldn't get our marriage license until the end of July.


Then we planned for 25 people. At the time there were no restrictions on weddings besides adequate social distancing.
Yesterday, literally 20 days before our Sept 5th wedding we are now restricted to 10 people.
I already sent a few invitations so I have to call and cancel them I also have to make a bunch of adjustments in catering and decorating. I bought all the alchohol already. I had to disinvite my MOH because his immediate family and mine plus the officiant makes 10.