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Downgrade or Scrap the whole wedding???? 😩🤦🏽‍♀️

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Deborah, on July 15, 2019 at 6:30 PM

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Future husband and I are no spring chickens. At the time of our nuptials he will have crossed over to his 40s and I will be right behind him. We were putting together our 5 year plan the other day. Buying a house wasn’t something we thought we would do anytime soon. We both pretty much started life over in our 30s and are playing catch-up. As we started planning we realized that a house could really be a reality within 5 years... just not alongside a wedding with a 12k-15k budget.

He’s the logical one and I’m the dreamer. He is all for going to the justice of the peace and little honeymoon and getting back to our goals. I know I sound like a spoiled brat but I want a wedding... at least a reception... something to celebrate the big step we took... we agreed to “something” under 5k. That is insanely hard in NYC.

Should l just throw in the towel and elope and go on vacation... or should I bust my butt finding a way to make something happen even if on a small basic scale so that I can get my wish of a celebration without going against our 5k agreement?

as an added note. I was married before very young and eloped at city hall. That is why this means that much to me...

thoughts opinions suggestions recommendations... all is welcome.

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VIP December 2019
Michelle · on July 16, 2019 at 12:00 AM
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I think it's perfect!
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Legend March 2017
Pirate & 60s Bride · on July 16, 2019 at 1:54 AM
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It sounds like you want something beautiful (nothing wrong with that!). Can you cut your guest list to immediate families only and dearest friends and get to about 25 or less? Then check into a beautiful venue like a resort hotel and ask about least expensive packages for elopements/small weddings? They may have ceremony packages for $1500-$2000 and then see if you can negotiate a lovely meal (brunch or dinner) in a private room in their restaurant for around $100 per person and that’s $2500. For the ceremony, they may include a bouquet, officiant, photographer and a 1-hour photo session on their gorgeous grounds. Often hotel restaurants have basic candles you may be able to use and a private restaurant room is beautiful without decor. You may need to get married on a Sun-Thur but totally worth it to afford a great venue.
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Savvy October 2020
Bianca · on July 16, 2019 at 2:10 AM
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Only you can decide what’s best for you. The way I viewed it was that I knew I would regret not having a ceremony and reception. It sounds like you might be that way too. What if you rented out a spot at your favorite restaurant for just your close friends and family. You could find a spot in a park and have your officiant there to do a ceremony beforehand. It’s definitely doable on a small budget.
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