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Double barrel first AND last name?

Moose, on December 12, 2016 at 2:14 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 21
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My mum just asked me whether I plan to take my FH's last name, and it got me thinking. I definitely want to incorporate it somehow. I've been reading through old threads and haven't found a situation similar to mine because I have a "double barrel" first name.

First name: CarrieAnne

My last name: Bates

His last name: Thompson

Does CarrieAnne Bates-Thompson sound odd? What about CarrieAnne Thompson-Bates? For me, it sounds kinda sing songy because of the two names on both ends. I also know that can be annoying for DMV purposes. The hassle of having two first names can be tricky enough for them.

Another options would be using Bates as a middle name: CarrieAnne Bates Thompson. I could also drop Bates altogether and be CarrieAnne Thompson, though I worry my family might be sad.

I don't have a middle name so that wouldn't be an issue. Any thoughts?

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Latest activity by Jenna, on December 12, 2016 at 10:15 PM
  • Emma
    Master May 2017
    Emma ·
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    I think CarrieAnne Jackson-Bates has a better ring to it than the other way around. But I'm confused - is his last name Thompson or Jackson? ETA I personally am dropping my last name and will just be using FH's last name.

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  • SSJKarigan
    VIP August 2017
    SSJKarigan ·
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    I like the way CarrieAnne Thompson-Bates rolls of the tongue. It is a little sing-songy but not in a bad away. It's certainly a mouthful, but totally doable.

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  • Moose
    Dedicated July 2017
    Moose ·
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    Haha no idea why Jackson is in there. I edited it out. That's our dog's name *dying laughing*

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  • LittleDemon
    Master November 2017
    LittleDemon ·
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    Bates-Thompson sounds a little clunky to me, I would go with Thompson-Bates. It flows so well!

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
    JoRocka ·
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    Are you planning on having kids?

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  • Shalon
    Savvy August 2017
    Shalon ·
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    Why would your family be sad? Most women take the husbands name when they get married anyhow??

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  • Jaimee
    Master October 2019
    Jaimee ·
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    You could use your maiden name as your new middle name instead of hyphenating.

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  • Anne
    VIP October 2017
    Anne ·
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    I think incorporating the dog's name is the best bet! Smiley winking

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  • ELK
    Master March 2018
    ELK ·
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    I don't look at your first name as two names, even though it is. It's just your name...CarrieAnne. I think CarrieAnne Bates-Thompson sounds fine. Or, CarrieAnne Bates Thompson (moving your maiden to your middle)

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  • Mrs. Sitz
    Master July 2016
    Mrs. Sitz ·
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    Why would your family be sad? Women usually take their husband's last name so I'm not sure I understand. Anyhow, if it's important to YOU to incorporate your maiden name, I think Thompson-Bates sounds better.

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  • Moose
    Dedicated July 2017
    Moose ·
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    @JoRocka we'll definitely have kids so it would be nice to have some family connection

    @Shalon I guess because my mom thinks it's submissive or something? She hyphenated. She hasn't explained it, but she once said something like "I put a lot of thought into your name! Why would you change it?" when I mentioned changing it a year or two ago.

    @Anne YESSSSS. I'm not sure what it says about me that I called my FH by the dog's name...

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  • Amanda
    VIP October 2016
    Amanda ·
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    Its totally up to you but I dropped my middle name & made my maiden name my middle. I couldn't drop my last name completely. It just means too much to me to completely drop my last name

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  • JoRocka
    Master September 2016
    JoRocka ·
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    I was going to say if you aren't having kids- just leave them the same.

    Since you are- having the same name is useful- and I'd actually just pick on- and keep your last name as your middle.

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  • Tracy
    Dedicated May 2017
    Tracy ·
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    Definitely taking FH last name but still undecided if I'll hyphenate. I still have some time to decide. I am also in NY so using my maiden name as my middle name is not an option.

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  • AshleyR
    Master January 2021
    AshleyR ·
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    You could also just keep your own names and hyphenate any kids.

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  • Almost a Mrs.
    VIP December 2016
    Almost a Mrs. ·
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    Having a hyphenated name is a pain in the tail, in my opinion, especially a long one. If you plan to give your children double names, I would not hyphenate their last names, and I imagine this may affect how you handle your last name as well. My last name is 13 letters and my first is 6. The last letter of my first name, which makes it a completely different name, was always cut off of the roll at school and my name didn't fit in the bubbles during standardized testing or using scantrons in college. This might sound minor, but it led to so many headaches. People automatically assume that I'm telling them my first and last name when I give them my last name, so things are constantly mis-filed. My prescriptions are almost never under the right name, which has to be some type of legally punishable error, I'm sure. I'm constantly explaining that there's a hyphen and all of my work stuff does not have a hyphen because social security will not put hyphens on your card, so technically my social security card doesn't match my passport, drivers license, or school ID. This has also caused background checks to report that my social security number is not mine because the check was ran with a hyphen and not a space.

    ETA: My first name was cut off the roll because it was Lastname, First.

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  • Natalie
    VIP October 2017
    Natalie ·
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    I think you should drop Bates. It sounds better in my opinion. Adding Bates as the middle name sounds too long

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
    Emily ·
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    OP, MANY women keep their own names or hyphenate their names. It is perfectly fine and your choice. Don't listen to some of these comments from people who apparently don't realize it's a thing. I think both options sound great - Bates-Thompson or Thompson-Bates.

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  • RealLifeBride
    Super January 2017
    RealLifeBride ·
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    Unless you have a degree or job where keeping your maiden name is important, I would just take your FH's last name and drop the maiden name, or persue using your maiden name as you middle name.

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  • JuneBride
    Super June 2017
    JuneBride ·
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    I know a girl whose name was Carrie Ann (maiden name). So she changed her name to CarrieAnn (maiden name) (husbands last name). I think that is a good way to do it since it seems you want to keep your maiden name in some way and take your husbands name. If everyone calls you CarrieAnn anyways (like they did with this girl) it doesn't change it that much to just make that your new first name Smiley smile

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