Don't want my step dad who raised me to walk me down the aisle after all.

Note: I never asked him but it was always assumed. I would say, "Dad please stop drinking I don't want you drunk at my wedding, don't you want to walk me down the aisle someday?" Sometimes in tears telling him things like this in the past. But he hasn't stopped drinking and now he is so distant. Just don't feel he is worthy anymore.

Aisle*.

So tell him you don't want him walking you down the aisle. Why should you feel bad? He's the one that should feel bad for taking over the father role and letting you down time and time again. Good people don't just pick and choose when to be the person they say they are. They either are or they aren't.

There is no rule that states the father figure has to walk you down the aisle. And you don't even have to invite him to the wedding either.

Agreed with pp! Shoot, I'm having my brother walk me down the aisle!

Have your mom walk you - or no one!

I think you shouldn't have someone you don't want walking you down the aisle. It sounds like you mom has been a more constant figure in your life. Maybe have your mom walk you down, or just walk alone. I've also heard of the bride and groom walking down together.

Same scenario here. My biological father left when I was a baby. I have seen him one time in my life that I remember. My step-dad raised & even adopted me & my sister. But he has always been an alcoholic. He & my mom divorced over 20 years ago. He continues to drink to this day, despite multiple health problems related to it. I haven't seen or spoken to him in over ten years. He is not invited to my wedding. I will walk halfway down the aisle by myself, then FH will meet me & we walk the rest of the way together (just like out lives - starting alone, finishing together). I do not feel bad or guilty or anything about my dad not being there.

My father walked out when I was a child. We lived in the same town and I would see him regularly, and each time he would walk past me like he didn't know me. When I got engaged, he assumed he would walk me down the aisle like he did my sister. I was clear with him that he would not walk me down the aisle, and I was not even sure if he or his family (they abandoned me and my sister as well) would receive an invitation. I still haven't decided.

This sounds pretty clear cut. He is NOT walking you down the aisle. Your mother is, or you will walk alone (becoming more popular).

I have nothing to add other than don't feel bad about this decision. I agree with the other ladies; he shouldn't walk you down.

Thank you ladies for your thoughts and honesty. It feels better to know that I am not alone and other brides understand. I'm done crossing oceans for someone that will not even jump a puddle for me. I will start thinking of a special way to ask my mom, she had no idea!