Don't want Dad to walk me down the aisle...

My dad passed away and my mother drives me crazy half the time. So since this is I do - Take 2 and I'm 50 years old, I'm walking myself down the aisle. I'm not anybody's to give away so I'll just walk myself.

Initially, I was walking solo, my father will be in attendance but I refuse to be "given away" at the altar. Our officiant suggested FH and I walk down the aisle together, so that's the new plan and we both love it.

I have said this in other posts but FH and I are walking together. Both of my parents have been absent in my life and I just don't feel comfortable with anyone walking me down except him. FH said it'll take some pressure off of him standing alone in the front anyway. I am so happy to walk with him. Every journey we take we do it together.

I was about to suggest that you and FI walk in together as well

I am so excited to walk with my FH. So happy to see other brides want to do this too!

My mom is walking me down. Dad was never in the picture. When I asked my mom, she was shocked. She thought only man can walk the bride down the aisle. But she's really happy and excited now!

Screw traditions. You do what's best for yourself!

It's entirely up to you and it's your day. Don't second guess yourself. Do what's in your heart

I really don't want my dad to walk me down the aisle either and "give me away", because it's just cringe as hell! I mean, he wasn't really there for me much in my life, but now I have to give him the honours of giving me away? Nothing he's done for me would warrant him to give me away. It just makes me so uncomfortable to think about. So I will most likely be walking down the aisle alone. I feel empowered just thinking about it.

Curious what reactions people have gotten from dads when they are told you are having someone else walk you down the aisle. For me, it's my stepdad of 24 years and my dad, who I love but only saw twice a year growing up, is not taking it well. He says he "has done nothing to deserve this" and "will not take a backseat" in my wedding. Anyone else have a bad experience, and how did it end?

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Hi There! i feel the same and i want my mom to, but with the personality of my father im wondering how you handled it ? We went years without speaking and my mom was a single mom my whole life. So i just would prefer but i dont know how to approach the topic without him acting like a child

View Quoted Comment But it’s YOUR day have the person walk with you that you feel more comfortable with. My dad was always in my life but distant if that makes sense. We never got along and we don’t have a relationship now. When I’m around him he’s mean and yells at my kids and me for no reason and is verbally abusive. I love my mom though. I don’t care for traditions I would feel very uncomfortable with him walking me. He’s not even on my list of people to invite lol but I know my mom will bring him with her ugh as long as he sits in the corner and don’t say anything stupid.

I'm in the same situation. My dad is around I don't hear from him much and we don't have a strong connection. I actually want to have my four brothers walk me down. Something different. But its like will it be a slap in the face to my dad if he's invited but not walking me down. The whole point is to walk the bride down to "give her away" to her husband but how are you giving me away when you never really had me????