Don't Bring Just Anybody!

View Quoted Comment Me too. I have actually met guys when single at a wedding, dated for 6 months to 2 years, before going our separate ways.

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That's what I'm doing!

So, I’ve been the single person invited to weddings throughout a great deal of my twenties. When I knew a lot of friends going, I didn’t bring anyone, even with a date invite. However, there were times I wasn’t given a date invite and the only people I knew were the bride, groom, and MAYBE a member or two of the bridal party. I actually resented the couple a lot for it giving me a date invite, and even declined one of the invites, because I’d have to travel, pay for a gift, hotel room, etc. to sit with strangers. It seemed like a cheap and inconsiderate way to cut costs. Now, as a bride, I’ll say the guest list is the most stressful part, and we battle with our moms over it all the time. However, both of us pledged to bite the bullet and allow guests who don’t have a group of friends to sit with to have a plus one, and that doesn’t matter if it is a friend. We have some singles in our pretty large inner circle, who will have friends to sit with, so we will likely not give them guest invites OR talk to them about it first. Anyone could get in a relationship at any time too.

Let them know that the invite does not include a plus one. If there are any questions, leave your contact info and add more people accordingly, but let them know that you are extremely limited in cost per head, so you are trying to track for your budget!

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Thanks Judith, that is the way we are handling the invites/plus one's. Be well.

View Quoted Comment I’m with you. I think the hard rule of no plus one thing is tacky and rude, and that’s coming from someone who now greatly understands the stress of a guest list. I always used to think, “ok, so you happened to meet your person before me, and now I’m expected to pay for your husband/wife at my wedding simply for that reason?” Not cool. I’m in my thirties, and most of my friends are married now, so they already have built in plus ones I’m socially obligated to invite.

We're also paying "per head" for our wedding and are trying to keep it under 90. We personally reached out to everyone we weren't sure of (single people, certain out of town guests) and asked if they'd be bringing anyone and that helped us confirm how to set up their RSVP on our website. I think it helps keeping it small because I can just ask or remind people that space is limited but depending on your guest count, I agree with the others in making it clear on the RSVP card or website.

I agree with Caytlyn. Put on their RSVP how many seats you've reserved for them. If you're worried about them bringing a friend of theirs instead of a significant other, don't give them a plus one.

Although initially, I wanted everyone to have a plus one, eventually I realized I was feeling uneasy about paying a lot of money for individuals that don't really know us. Only offer a plus one to people you know are in serious relationships, married or your friendly with! Be stingy! There's nothing wrong with it.

Hi All,

This was a concern of ours but we are doing the "X seats are reserved for you" on the RSVP. No +1s for singles. Thanks!

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Lmao, I love that motto!