Dominicans?! Ask for money!?

A registry is there so people don't buy you 5 toasters. A registry is there to say "Hey someone already bought this couple a toaster, but no one has bought this tea kettle."

My SIL didn't have a registry at all and ended up with 3 toaster ovens and 6 crock pots.

ETA: Also, it may not offend you, but obviously it offends other people. Let's think about other people okay?

It's rude. Asking for money in any form is always rude.

If something you're wondering about makes you pause, even for a second, and think, "I wonder if this might offend someone..." Then chances are, it probably will and is probably rude.

Bc a registry is more of guideline on what your taste is like what you may need for the house. People bring gifts to weddings but they don't always know where or what type of gift to buy the registry helps with that. If they want to give money they'll give money. On a registry you're giving people options on types of gifts and price ranges. But to flat out ask for money you are taking they're options away.

OP, don't be an askhole. You asked opinions, you got them. They weren't what you wanted. Don't blame us because you couldn't manage your expectations of Internet strangers' responses.

Exactly what Laura 2.0 said. If I can only afford $20, buying you a super sweet tea kettle that you'll have forever sounds MUCH better to me than giving you a card (that you'll throw away) with a $20 in it.

Yes, MissNC, I TRULY want to UNDERSTAND why people think it's rude, because I am seriously at a loss

Laura 2.0., thank you. That does make sense to me the way you explained it

It is still rude. If you want cash then have a small/no registry and trust adults to be adults.

I feel like a broken record with the "trust adults to be adults"

I suggest you put this as an insert in your invitation...

Also there is no need to YELL, we can understand your EMPHASIS without CAPITALIZING random words.

Is that YOU Thomas?

Registries are also not actually for the wedding. They're for SHOWERS, where the point is to SHOWER the bride with gifts. Many people DO use them for a wedding gift, but technically gifts are not required nor should be expected at a wedding. Giving them is customary, but not dictated by etiquette.

This is where Honeyfunds and asking for cash come in. They are intended specifically for wedding gifts. Since gifts are not/should not be expected, telling someone in any capacity to get you a wedding gift, but especially money, is particularly rude.

Lots of posts on this. I suggest you search questions first, because there are usually threads already.

Also, welcome to WW!

It's gauche, tacky, rude. Do you just want to leave a hat out at your reception? I have never been to a wedding where anyone asked for money, yet no one brought physical gifts and everyone brought cash, it's like some weird unspoken rule.

I'm gonna ask you to change your avatar though....

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Nobody has everything add a few items you either need or want on a small registry and they will get the hint

Wait what happened WWJo?

Hey OP im dominican too and this is what im doing and what we did for my brothers wedding as well. Sign up for a small registry and just distribute it to whomever is going to your bridal shower which usually is a handful of people. The rest will give you money.

I didn't register at all. We received 5 gifts and the rest in checks/cash. People get the idea when there isn't a registry and people who prefer to gift will gift regardless if there is one or not.

You say that the Dom Republics don't follow all the US social norms then say you don't know how asking for money will go over with them. That implies you shouldn't be asking at all.