Dollar Dance

Nope. It's rude to ask your guests to give you money.

It's done a lot in my area because I live in a very Polish area. I'm doing it for the cultural reasons, rather than to make a buck off of my guests. My nana gets really into it because the bride has to wear a babushka. I wouldn't care if the guests don't give money, as long as they come dance with me!

It's actually not rude to do the dollar dance, I'm Hispanic and it's a tradition in most Mexican weddings. People who don't want to participate and give money won't it's as simple as that. I've had two cousins get married in the last two years and both did the dollar dance and nobody was insulted or offended it's expected in our culture. @Sandie wow $7.00 that's it, yikes.

Absolutely not. I stopped taking $1 for dancing when I stopped being a stripper.

This is something that is completely up to you and never goes well on this forum. I will go ahead and sum up all the responses now. Some will, because it is tradition in the family, the rest will say it is tacky. Also considering that you only made $7 at your last wedding.....doesn't look like a good idea.

I agree with Ashley. If you feel like your last one was pointless, don't do it since it doesn't seem to be special to you.

Just talked to FH... He really, really wants to do it. Hmmm...

I am doing the dollar dance, not because I want to but because my family is polish and my mom said I HAVE to...she is paying for 80% of the wedding so what mama wants mama gets!

@FutureMrsCrane - I live in the most Polish area in the United States (and I'm half Polish), and I have no idea what a "dollar dance" is.

Actually, I am hispanic (& more than half our guest list is as well) so your argument is invalid.

I am Polish and they do it at every wedding. I hate it but what can you do.

We will be having one, just because It's a tradition. I think people would find it stranger if we didnt have one. It's not about the money collected, I've always seen it as a chance to get one on one time with the bride and groom.

We will be doing one because FH is Hispanic and it's a tradition that they do. I don't mind it

@Lucy I wasn't arguing anything. I was stating that where I live it is an expected part of the wedding. I'm not saying all Hispanics share the same cultural traditions, because obviously we don't.

@purplekitten, My nana loves the dollar dance because her relatives in Poland did it to a polka, and she absolutely loves making the bride wear a babushka. It's been passed down in my family as a Polish tradition for as long as I know. I'm half Polish also, so maybe it's not from a part of Poland that your family came from. That's my best guess.

@FutureMrsCrane - we do Who Stole the Kishka, but it's never involved dollars.

What *is* a dollar dance?

Not doing it. I think it's tacky, plus you shouldn't have to pay to get one on one time with the bride or groom. Plus it eats up several song lengths of your reception time in which most of the guests will have nothing to do.

I'll bite: What is a dollar dance?

I just can't for the life of me figure out why the people claiming "they have to do it its tradition" can't just have a non dollar dance time where any guests who want come dance with the bride and groom, you can have the dance and make it fun and not rudely ask your guests for more money ETA: even if you are Hispanic or polish and your whole family does it, that is not the same for all of your guests, I would be extremely insulted at a couple asking for more money from me, as if the shower gift and wedding money weren't enough

Dollar dance is where guests can pay to dance with the bride or groom. I've always heard that the purpose of it is to get one one one time with the bride and groom, and to help the newlyweds have a little extra cash to use on their honeymoon.

People form a line to dance with the bride. Generally, people pay a dollar to one of the BMs to dance with the bride (some older people like grandparents usually give more). You dance around a few times and onto the next person. They form a circle around the bride, and at the end of it, the groom has to break through. I personally like it because I think it's fun because the bride gets to dance with every person that feels like doing it, but people don't have to dance with her. I can definitely see how it's not for everyone though.

@Soon2BMrsB, I love your idea! I totally agree. I'm planning on skipping the money part and just dancing with everyone.