Dollar Dance: Tacky or Still fun?

Highly regional and cultural. Virtually none of my couples do it.

I personally think it's tacky to ask your guests for money, but as I said, in many circles it's expected.

I've never been to a wedding without one! Didn't know that some brides didn't do it LOL .... just assumed everyone did it! Guess it's up to you and your FI! But HECK yes we are doing one, people would think we were strange if we didn't (we live in Western PA)

FMIL definitely wants us to do one. It is not strange in my circle, so, yup, we are doing one. Never as a guest at a wedding with a dollar dance have I thought of it as tacky. It has always been a fun thing -love seeing all the groomsmen circled around dancing with the groom to some slow song...it's generally in good fun, not a Give-us-money vibe at all.

I had never heard of it before until I started reading about them here. I don't have a problem with it but you know your guests better than we do.

It's common in my circle, but I didn't do one..I think if it's common for your circle/culture it couldn't hurt. However if it's only for a money grab and not common for your family I'd nix it.. Also if you think it's tacky you should just stick to what you are comfortable with for your wedding.

If it's the done thing in your area or it relates to either of your cultures, wouldn't call it tacky. Otherwise, yeah - it seems to have become something that is used more and more without the right setting or the right guest list.

I find it extremely tacky and offensive. I'm here to celebrate your wedding, I already bought you a gift, and now you are nickel and diming me. Buy your own honeymoon. I would only do it if it is a family or cultural tradition for you.

I should probably ask FH. We have been to one wedding together but it was on his Dad's side. He has a HUGE family on both sides so he may want to. I am torn only because I don't want to seem like I am asking for money (it is a personal thing)

It's done at almost every wedding in my area!! Plus I think its a lot of fun!! Im absolutely doing it!!

Eta: We also live in south western Pa!!

Its normal on my side, FHs family never heard of it and will most likely think its tacky. I want it done, so we are doing it. Its only $1 so its no like you are really making any serious money from it, and its nice to be able to spend those 30 seconds with someone one on one.

We're probably doing one. I have never been to a wedding that did one (I've only been to like 3 though) but FH's family says it's a must. Basically his whole family will be expecting/wanting it. I had originally thought it sounded tacky, like I was asking for $ so I mentioned it to a few of my cousins to gauge their reaction and they all thought it sounded like fun. I think when you're the one attending a wedding, it's a fun way to get a moment alone with the bride/groom. When you're the one taking the $ it seems like you're just asking for $. That's my opinion anyway.

Patricia, that's a cute idea.... I've gotta come up with something like that!

I wasn't a fan but my DH really wanted one - we did have one and it turned out really fun! It was a great way to actually talk to a lot of guests without having to make the rounds I stayed in one place and everyone came to me! haha

I recently had a client that was in the same situation she was unsure of weather to do the dollar dance or not. We came up with a really fun idea... Instead of the dollar dance they did "who wears the cake" They set up 2 jars and put there names in from of each jar then placed a sign in the middle stating "who wears the cake?" The jar that received the most money at the end of the night is the one who got cake in the face! She said it was a high hit at her wedding.

Would def be tacky in my region. I didn't even know what they were until I came on here.

@jaime k...I loved seeing "wicked tacky." I'm from New England too

I've certainly never heard of this until this discussion! I've never seen it at any wedding I have attended.. maybe it's not well known here in Canada? lol it sounds cute though!

I have never seen one, so I'd say no. But I'd *really* say no since you're uncomfortable with it. Your guests are not there to send you on a honeymoon

It's normal in my family and FHs family. My cousin chose not to have one, and then other cousins came up to me and flat-out asked (some told) me to do one at my wedding. They were bummed that it didn't happen at my cousin's.

FH doesn't really want to do it, and wants to talk about it more before making a decision. I'm fine either way

We are having one. I work in law enforcement and didnt concider doing one until the officer I work with closley everyday insisted that i have one. I think it will bring fun memories with the men that have become my brothers