Dollar Dance? Tacky and Rude or Expected?

You seem to already know the answer.

It's very rude. And so are cash registries.

I just wanted to hear it from someone else because I've asked 3 different people and they all said it's expected to be done and people bring cash to weddings for this reason. I was beginning to think it was just me that thought this was rude....

Keep the cash and just come up and dance with me!

I've never even heard of this before WW. It's such a weird concept to me.

I haven't seen it done since the 80's. I think it puts people on the spot and can be really uncomfortable. Some cultures do expect it. I don't.

I think they're a little rude to be honest.

Unless it is a cultural thing, tacky and rude.

What culture expects this? To me it isnt cultural it sounds like I'm being pressured to do this for greed. I invited people to celebrate with me, not to hand over dollar bills to pay for my honeymoon. What are thoughts on alternatives? I read online you can do like a final dance with the bride and groom. You just come up and dance no money involved and it's a nice way to get to talk to all your guests individually? Is that silly?

I've been told I will be super busy and won't get alot of time to talk to my guests. Like 5 mins per guests. Is what I been told. Haven't been to alot of weddings as a guest maybe 2 as a kid. 100s as a caterer. So not really sure how it all goes.

My guest list isnt to large I don't think. Like 100ish half is just immediate family. Please don't be rude with the "that's your fault" stuff. I'm making a good faith effort to do the right thing and im asking for guidance. Last time I was a guest at a wedding was 10 years ago and they did a dollar dance and they didn't talk to me once not even a hi thank you for coming. So I'm just trying to do the right thing.

My good friend did it at her wedding March. This was even before I joined WW and I thought it was awkward then. Worst part is it was mostly $1 and some $5 bills and was maybe $30 total lol. Then she visited every table "saying hi" right after with the money still pinned all over her dress. I think she was trying to get more money.

I personally hate them. Almost all the weddings I have been to have had them and I just find them wrong. However, some people like them and it is up to them. I just find it awkward, so it will not be at my wedding.

Handing out cash to the bride and groom is something that used to be expected in my culture (Orthodox, Greek Cypriot). Back in the day, the guests pinned money on the newlywed couple as they danced around and this was to help them start their new lives together.

HOWEVER. This was before registries, gift cards and envelopes, and also at a time when the whole village would gather outside the house of the couple the morning after and cheer over a bloody sheet once the marriage was consummated and the bride lost her virginity. If you can appreciate how savage and backwards that sounds, you can put dollar dances right in there, too. They're outdated and considered rude because there are much more polite and discreet alternatives these days.

I've never seen a dollar dance at a wedding. However, it is a cultural event so I guess it would depend on your respective cultural backgrounds as to whether or not people expect it. Then again, people expect a bouquet toss and some couples choose not to have one. It's your day and if you feel strongly about it, don't do it.

Ive been to weddings that havent had the dance and was great and been to lots that have and it was still a blast. Its your choice, its your day! I know alot of people in my family do the dollar dance, not sure if i will or not have not decided. But i dont see anything wrong with it if its what you want. People dont got to participate if they dont want to!

I've seen one. Extremely tacky and rude. I felt kind of uncomfortable the whole time. Especially when I had to dance with the groom. Who I had never met...so very awkward..

I never thought of it being tacky until I came on here. It's done at almost every wedding I've ever been to. It shows where you live I guess. I participate when I'm a guest willingly so I guess it doesn't bother me.

Rude. Tacky. All of the above.

My sister and FMIL both asked if we were doing one. They both think they are "fun". Do instead of saying no they are rude. I just told them we don't like being the center of attention. That got em to stop asking

They are a tradition in my maternal grandmother's family, since when the family of 11 people first came to America, no one had enough money to give gifts for weddings. So they took to pinning fake dollar bills to family brides as a symbolic gift and a wish for good luck. I think it stems from Polish tradition (they were Polish).

That said, we're not doing it. Times change, traditions change, I don't want to walk around with a bunch of fake dollars pinned on me and no way in hell am I dancing for real money. I'm having a special, fake $64 dollar bill made up, which I will pin on my Gran's dress after we dance together, as she has been married for 64 years. That will be my way of honoring the tradition without making myself or others uncomfortable.