Doing Too Much??

I am the opposite I got them telling me I am doing too little aha. It's still annoying anyhow because they're giving an opinion when it's not their day ahah

Exactly! Thanks but no thanks...

Ah, the peace of getting married at an older age. I have NONE of this. Good luck ladies!

I don't think a sparkler exit is too much as long as it's allowed at the venue.
I'm the opposite my mother thinks I'm not doing anything 😂

Lol thanks!

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That's exactly how I feel! The venue is all about it! I guess my mom thinks she's in charge of cleaning the entire reception space on her own?...idk...She's crazy...

Yeah, what are her specific concerns? What is her definition of "too much"? I mean, a sparkler exit is a really trendy thing right now, everyone seems to be doing it, or something like it. Maybe she's just remembering back to when her generation got married, without a lot of fuss and frills. But that doesn't mean you are doing "too much."

It's your wedding, and you should get what you want!! We're not doing a sparkler exit, but only because our venue doesn't allow it. We'll probably do glow sticks or maybe bubbles.

That was my thought process behind it as well. I think she is concerned about the aftermath. She mentioned that she's going to be the one cleaning everything up but I tried to reassure her that's not the case at all. With the sparklers it is a must to have buckets of sand for disposal purposes. Not everyone would even get a sparkler because that might be overkill. Out of the 125 people in attendance, I'm thinking only 40 adults would have them. Bubbles and glow sticks are a great idea!

I don’t know how any of the parents feel, none of them bring it up, ever. For the most part all they know is it’s a beach wedding.
Except my Dad who has set $$ aside for the rehearsal dinner and bought a giant cooler for drinks at our super casual reception.

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Consider yourself lucky!! We have opinions coming from left and right

View Quoted Comment It’s a bit disappointing to be honest. I thought the moms might be at least a little interested. But we are an older (ish) couple for a first marriage, maybe they gave up their dreams of a wedding a long time ago?

Oh no! I'm sorry to hear that. So no one asks about any of the details?? Hopefully when you guys get a little closer to the date everyone will start to feel the excitement!

Eh, I’m mostly over it. “No one will be as excited about your wedding as you will” - I see that posted in threads all the time and it’s true in my case as well. I don’t expect their level of interest to change as we get closer, and that’s ok. While it was initially disappointing, since getting on WW I’ve realized it’s probably a gift in disguise.

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That is such a positive way to look at it. I hope you can remain that positive throughout the whole process! Please tell me your SO is excited at least??

He is but I have to drag it out of him sometimes.

I told my grandmother I'd like to have an engagement party in NJ because my extended family has only met my FH 2 times for a total of 4 hours. We've lived in DC and NC over the course of our relationship and all my family is in PA and NJ. She said that was too much because you have a shower and bachelorette and wedding and it's "too much" to expect people to do. I'm not having a Bach and I just thought it would be a nice way for people to get to know my FH. Also, I asked people in a Facebook post what they wished they registered for and what they wished they didn't. A lot of people were helpful but she was rude. She replied that because Jeremy and I lived on our own first, don't we have enough stuff, implying that because I'm 36 and still single I shouldn't need anything. Then she said I dunno, just ask people, which is exactly what I was doing...🙄.

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Lol eh that's my guy too. I give him little tasks here and there so he gets excited. Mostly things to do with him and the groomsmen. At least you have SOMEONE to anticipate the wedding with. But if you ever need a pick me up, Wedding Wire's got you! This thread definitely made me feel better about my disagreement with my mom.

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Sheesh! I think an engagement party is the best way for everyone to get to know each other before the wedding! I feel like it also gets them excited about the wedding so they all have an excuse to hang out again. Sorry grandma is so negative about things.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. I just have to remind myself that she's 85 and miserable to everyone!

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Lol exactly!