So this weekend I had my shower. It was great but some things happened also that weren't great as well this weekend. Can I get some opinions on them?
First, my cousin who is also a bridesmaid acted strange the entire time during the shower. My MOH and I were sitting together talking about hair. Long story short right now where we are hair people cannot do hair outside of their salons due to rules from their board; this does sound like it will be changing by next month. But I wanted to let them know that I have a back up place. I am paying for their hair to be done. My cousin said she might do her own hair; now I completely understand this if I wasn't paying for her hair but to me that came off as somewhat rude and ungrateful. She really didn't give a reason so I'm not sure I understand why she would do this?
Second (this one is a long one), my FSIL did not attend the shower and was home this weekend. On Sunday my FH gets texts from her husband; basically they got into a huge fight. Where things got super tense and she ripped his pictures out of their wedding photos, destroyed their garage, broke a tempered glass table that is used out on decks/ patios (and not a small one, a big one), threw lawn chairs at her husband. Her husband sent us pictures of everything. Then took their 2 daughters and left. She refused to answer the phone and when my FH texted her, she blamed him for what happened. Not even trying to follow that one. Her husband said that he was going to the police on her this time. She finally spoke with her dad and met him so the kids would be with him. We aren't really sure what is going on now. But my FFIL said during one of our phone calls to him that he wouldn't want them at the wedding and that he doubts they will come now. He said that he will make sure their daughters are their. We aren't really saying anything to anyone right now about this whole thing since things could change in the next 3 months. But honestly this behavior scares me, more than I want to admit. I'm not even sure how they could come back from this. My opinion is that they need to go their separate ways. What would you do in this situation, wait it out or I don't even know? Part of me wants to redo their invite just for the kids but that also seems silly. Can anyone give me any advice on this.