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Leesha
VIP August 2015

does it matter which side of the alter you stand on ?

Leesha, on January 23, 2015 at 11:51 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18

Does it matter which side of the alter you stand on ? I'm sure we all have a 'better' side.... which side of the alter will you be on whilst being married to your FH? Is their a 'proper' side to stand on ??

PS on app so it says I'm in atlanta.,. I'm from Canada lol

Thanks to KitandKaboodle post I now know.....

Now, are you doing it the traditional way or not ?

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Latest activity by Monana, on January 24, 2015 at 11:48 PM
  • KitandKaboodle
    Master November 2016
    KitandKaboodle ·
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    Per the knot (copy and paste)

    It is customary for the bride to stand to the left at the altar, though you may not be so keen on the reasons why. The tradition actually stems from the old days of "marriage by capture", when the groom needed to leave his right hand (his fighting hand) -- which he used to hold his sword -- free in the event that he should need to defend his bride from other suitors who may try to wisk her off at the last minute. Pretty dramatic, huh? Today, most couples still choose to stand with the gent on the right -- probably because they haven't really given it much thought. If you would like to mix things up, feel free to stand on whichever side makes you feel most comfortable. One thing to consider -- if you are having a religious ceremony, check with your officiant and make sure that changing your positions at the altar won't go against the beliefs of your church in any way.

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  • Leesha
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    Leesha ·
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    Thanks KitandKaboodle. It's good to know I can choose which ever side I like Smiley smile.....

    Are most of you doing it the traditional way ?

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  • KitandKaboodle
    Master November 2016
    KitandKaboodle ·
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    Traditional for us.

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  • FutureMrsMerritt
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    FutureMrsMerritt ·
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    I still haven't decided. Like you said we all have a good side and mine is definitely the other side, it will look great in photos lol. My other side ( the traditional side) my bangs are on and I feel like it will cover my face, so I may have a valid argument for FH!

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  • Finally mrs.jkr
    Master June 2025
    Finally mrs.jkr ·
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    I do traditional just so that I can remember and not get it mixed up/confused/change my mind a-bajillion times. I know that he's on the right because he's Mr. Right... get it? Smiley tongue

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  • Munkos
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    Munkos ·
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    Yup traditional for us because I'm sure I would've gone to the left anyways, haha.

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  • Northern MN
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    Northern MN ·
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    We were all lined up and our coordinator kept moving people around and I finally said...hey how about we just flip sides....she was worried about not following tradition....but I said hey we aren't that traditional to start why make this part traditional (plus it fit our wedding party and mini grand piano better that way).

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  • Caylin C.
    Master August 2015
    Caylin C. ·
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    We're getting married in a Catholic church so we're doing it the traditional way, but if I could choose I would stand on the right.

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  • Natalie
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    Natalie ·
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    We will probably do the traditional way. I'm breaking a lot of traditions, but this one I don't really care or see a point to change. I don't have a "good side" or "bad side". We don't plan to direct guests to sit on side though. They can sit wherever they'd like, the traditional side or not.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Unless it's a Jewish ceremony, the bride (in a couple with a bride and groom) is almost always on the left.

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  • 8815wedding
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    8815wedding ·
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    I will be standing on the right, since that is actually traditional in jewish ceremonies.

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    Caitie ·
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    I want to stand on the right because it's my "good" side but I'm afraid my wedding planner (who is also my grandma) will faint from the breach of tradition.

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  • Mrs Ronco
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    Mrs Ronco ·
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    We will be doing the tradition. I prefer standing on the left anyways. Smiley smile

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  • Jessica
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    Jessica ·
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    I prefer standing on the right.. but I don't know how people will feel about it. I feel like they would think we don't know what we're doing lol. But it's definitely something I will consider

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    I'm standing on the traditional left side!

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    Mikaela ·
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    For me it's the opposite. Jewish tradition has the bride on the right and the groom on the left

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  • Chelsea
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    Chelsea ·
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    Traditional! Left for me.

    Also, it says I'm from Atlanta on the app too haha

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  • Monana
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    Monana ·
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    Makes no difference to me, so I will stick with the traditional way.

    I will have my hair to one side, so it may block my face a bit but I think I prefer that to having my hair the other way and not being able to see it at all.

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