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Katie
Super June 2013

Does anyone else avoid talking about their wedding??

Katie , on April 24, 2013 at 7:18 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 23

I never know if talking about my wedding will bother others, so I don't. I am paying the penalty of not being ready now 45 days out. But a few situations have screamed just don't say a word! Is it okay to talk about your wedding, or should we keep it hushed unless others bring it up?

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Latest activity by Mrs.B, on April 26, 2013 at 1:10 PM
  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
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    I typically keep it quiet until someone brings it up. Even with that, depending who they are will determine how much detail I will give them. What do you still need to do?

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  • Debbie
    Devoted October 2013
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    I don't bring it up either. If people ask me about it I will talk about it but I am not one to just bring it up out of nowhere

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  • ** Christina Q! **
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    Why arent you ready Katie, what are you behind on? I think weddings are def one of the events where you care about it a ton but others, especially not close to you, aren't super excited or even interested. I dont talk about mine much either unless asked, and even then I wont get too animated unless they really seem interested

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  • Mary
    Expert August 2013
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    I never bring it up unless someone brings it up

    If someone says generally how I am/What I'm up to i might say i'm busy with wedding stuff but that is it.

    Equally I think it depends who you are with - I will talk more with my sister and mum than I would with someone I work with

    But That doesn't mean I'm not allowed to ever bring it up with anyone just that I have to be selective and appropriate to the situation.

    I think weddings are like children people may like them but they don't want to know when they poo

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  • ... just add coffee
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    I try not to bring mine up too much with other people. Especially at work. I have a few work people who are going to be invited and they often ask questions. My boss (who is invited) asks about plans all the time. I feel bad talking about it all the time though because I know people don't really want to hear about it!

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  • FinallyDoingIt
    Master July 2014
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    I don't talk about it much unless asked. Well, that's not true, I probably annoy the shit out of my mom with wedding talk but I'm okay with that. Lol

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  • His Mrs A
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    I don't usually bring it up either. I figure that's what WW and the Knot are for. :-)

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  • Katie
    Super June 2013
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    I am behind on quite a bit. I haven't picked up my bustier or slip...so nope no fittings yet. I still have to order linens, kilts for the men and shoes for everyone. The food for the reception hasn't been ordered yet. We aren't having it catered so I need to get final okays for those working that night. Our DJ bailed and photographer so I still need to meet with those new guys and haven't found a new make up artist. There is more but...well I should have delegated and asked help sooner.

    Things keep falling that I thought were secured. I just didn't want to bother people that had offered help in the past, but I guess it's time.

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  • M2H
    Master September 2013
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    I don't usually bring it up. Even to my bestie MOH or to my other BMs. I don't want them to feel like i don't care about anything but the wedding but right now that's all i have/want to talk about. So i always focus on them. Even when they bring it up i try not to stay on the subject for too long.

    With other people i try to avoid it because for some reason everyone wants to ask awkward ass questions.

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  • Mrs Roberts
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    I didn't really bring my wedding up either.. Like Lynzey said if someone says something then I'll talk about it.. Other than that its hush.. Plus I don't like ppl in my business unless its close friends.. Smiley smile

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  • Maggie N
    Master August 2013
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    I try really hard not to talk about it. If I accidentally bring it up and someone asks the obligatory follow up questions, I try to keep my answers short and generic.

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  • HisMrs2013
    Dedicated July 2013
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    I was so happy to find WW because I want to talk about our wedding, but I feel like no one wants to hear about it:-}

    @Katie P: have you reached out to your MOH or bridal party for help? Your mother or FMIL? Any close friends who you've been a part of their special day or a significant part of each others lives? I agree with you, it's time, girl!!

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  • Beth
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    Sometimes people ask me a question about it and I feel like the floodgates open and I just want to tell them everything. lol. BUt I am self-conscious about talking about it too much. My students know if they want to get me off topic, ask a question about my wedding.

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  • Chiffon
    Expert July 2013
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    Nope I dont bring it at alll, to the point my friends think Im not excited lol I just dont want to be a nag..I bring it up to FH alllll the time and I use WW for that!!

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  • Goodbye
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    I try not to talk about it, but due to excitement that doesn't always work so well lol. I do talk to one friend about my wedding planning constantly, but she is also getting married (this Saturday actually!) so I have the tendency to run ideas passed her often because I value her opinion.

    I learned early on to just keep things to myself for the most part. I don't usually want others advice or input lol and if I do, I go to my girl friend or WW!

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  • P
    Savvy July 2013
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    I thought I was the only one lol. I don't really talk about my wedding to people unless they ask me or they are either my bridesmaids or my mom. If they ask me, I'll tell them things but only what they asked about. I always wondered if I was being really secretive about it but I guess it's somewhat normal lol

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  • Bridget
    Devoted September 2013
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    I usually don't talk about it unless someone asks about it. Even then, I don't go on an on about everything, even though I'm bursting at the seems to let it all out!!

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  • Megan
    Dedicated September 2014
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    I don't talk about it with certain people.

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    Master April 2014
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    Only with my mom and my sister. If anyone asks i try to change the subject. I just get tired of the criticism and the "you should have this" or "its not a wedding without this"

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  • S
    Savvy June 2014
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    Thanks for your post. I didn't realize that people aren't really happy and excited as I am about my engagement. I'm not going to let any steal my joy about my engagement so I'm keeping quite unless someone ask me about our plans.

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