Do you think love is important in a marriage?

I cannot imagine getting married to anyone else but my fiancé! I have male friends I’ve known for almost 30 years who I love dearly, but I cannot imagine myself married to any of them, despite friendship, caring for them, and respecting them. It would simply be like living with a roommate!

I personally feel it is important. The only way I can see this happening is with cultures that still practice arranged marriages. My ex husband did some shady stuff and even though he said he loved me, his actions I found out about from others proved otherwise. I had absolutely no reason to stay in that marriage. For me, no love, no marriage.

I can’t imagine not being in love either Because that just feels like you’ve settled and not had the greatest happiness you could have. but I guess people get into a marriage for other reasons.
For instance I’ve got a friend who married a girl he met on international tinder and legit in half a year they got married after meeting like twice in person. It’s not them being in love aha we all don’t think it is and it’s kind of obvious it’s not. When you’re around them it’s kind of awkward like they don’t really talk much.
It’s more like he wanted a certain kind of spouse and she met the requirements and he was ok enough so she was in. Plus she got to come over to America.However I will say this - just because they aren’t in love doesn’t mean they don’t have a functioning relationship. They happen to be compatible enough but it’s obvious it’s more like they’re friends or roommates than it is them being each other’s love of their lives. Do I think they’re the happiest they possibly could be with someone though? No not really aha.

View Quoted Comment Yes! I see this with certain couples and my future sister in law. I mean, whatever floats your boat but it makes me sad that people don’t get to find that person that lights up their life.

Love doesn’t come in one form. It’s everything from sexual to a partnership (and everything in between).

View Quoted Comment So do you think romantic love is important? Not saying it’s the only important reason lol.

Romantic love is very important in a marriage. Otherwise you're in a platonic relationship that you could have with anyone.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! But I think even that evolves over time as you grow with your partner.

I too have been with my FH for almost 10 years now. I could never imagine marrying anyone else. The thought of me marrying someone else gives me a very awful feeling. If you’re specifically talking about sexual attraction, I think it’s a pretty important factor however I do feel like many people that have relationships based highly off of sex, will eventually become desensitized as they get older and if they don’t have that strong emotional love factor, they’ll start to run the risk of cheating and infidelity. Do I find my FH sexy now? Yes of course! Will I find him sexy when we’re 80....probably not but who knows.

I don’t think that I would be marrying my fiancé if I wasn’t romantically in love with him. I feel like it would defeat the purpose of getting married. Of course marriage is made up of many different components but love is definitely a huge factor.

View Quoted Comment THIS. Almost the opposite of the OP, I wonder if people who are strongly in "romantic love" may have marriage troubles down the road?
When the worst happens - one of you is sick, depressed, becomes newly handicapped, kids in the middle, etc. If you aren't able to express your love sexually - where are you left?
I'm actually a proponent of "try before you buy" 😂 for compatibilities sake, but I'd be married to my partner regardless if we weren't sexually active anymore (due to choice or circumstances) as long as we still had a mutual care and respect for each other. He's a life partner - I just want someone to hold my hand. 😘

View Quoted Comment I never said other things weren’t important but I do think love is important to be included. I’m lucky to have it all...what I posted about dont referring to Jaír a sexual attraction.

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View Quoted Comment I guess what I'm saying is the combo of all the things is love - many like to equate a "spark" or "chemistry". Those can certainly be included too, but what's love except caring for the other person?

View Quoted Comment I see. I’m thinking seeing someone and they’re the one that brightens up your day. After several years, I still feel warm fuzzies. I’m just saying I’ve seen marriages/relationships where they just seem like roommates lol they’re just okay rather than happy if that makes sense.

View Quoted Comment It can be hard seeing it from the outside as well. We've been friends with couples that seem perfect at dinner - she gets up for the bathroom and he kisses her cheek, yadda yadda. Divorced.
Then couples who seem like roommates in public or even like they don't seem alike at all- but he puts on the coffee for her everyday at home.
Either way, if they feel content - hey, whatever floats your boat. 😃

I wasn't in love with my husband when i married him at all. I loved him. So it is a difference Ian in love with my baby now because weve been through so much and good times theoughout our marriage and in our relationship wasn't has long before marriage that's probably why. His my better half!!!!!!!

View Quoted Comment Whats the difference you think between in love and love since everyone has varied definitions?

View Quoted Comment Love-caring,make sacaficies for someone, give them the shirt off your back and love being with them ...have their heart at they best interested
In love- unbreakable,somoene life your rib,other half and cant see life without them.

On a relationship sector...i can get deeper but just basic definition. However love for your mom dad child is different then your spouse...well for me...everyone definition is different

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