Do you send out Invitations to a small Destination Wedding?

Personally I think you're sending out the invites way too early. JMHO

Bethania is correct, there really is no right or wrong way anymore. lol

Yes, you should laways send out invites with the ceremoney, reception, hotel and travel info.

Okay now I totally don't know what to do! I sincerely appreciate the honest opinions! So if I send STDs, can I include detailed info about alternative lodging if they dont want to stay at our all inclusive hotel and include other details they'd need to know in order to book their trip? Or is that weird to do? I know they'll ask immediately, they already are and I want to make sure their questions are answered asap. And IF I can send that info the the STDs then when I send the invite should it just be formal and basic an say 'you're invited! etc'?

You can send the STDs, with all the pertinent info- hotel information, etc. With a destination wedding, it's important to give advance notice. But the STD is not an invite.

I also emailed everyone invited to the ceremony once the location/date was finalized.

Invites should be sent 6-8 weeks prior to the event. Even with an STD, people forget and will need a reminder.

Whew! Okay I think I've grasped all of this. I know what to do now! Y'all really are the best, ah! thank you!

I'm on the phone right now with the coordinator booking my wedding and honeymoon! AHHHHH

We had only 12 guests at our wedding, and they still got invitations. We did not bother with STDs, though. The people who were invited had all heard long before when our wedding would be, since they were immediate family and very close friends only.

Oh my gosh 2d Bride, I think I now kind of understand your name on here. Did you marry another woman? If so, HOW COOL that y'all went all out and both wore beautiful gowns!

@Carly G.: Yes, my name was chosen because a) it was a two-bride wedding, and b) it was my second wedding. I have a planning bio at this link, if you are interested. Unfortunately, I accidentally deleted it a couple of weeks ago, but most (though not all) of it has now been restored.

Hello ~

I believe that the invitation is one of the most important parts of your wedding. It sets the mood for your ceremony.If you choose a unique kind of invitations to impress your guests, they are going to look forward to your wedding with a special feeling. If the invitations are this good, wedding is going to even better kind of the feeling.

Nikki

https://www.invitationinabottle.com/

I sent out invitations to our DW to everyone that I would have normally sent them out to. I sent them approximately 2 months before the wedding- but I only had a 4 month engagement before our wedding. I wanted a small wedding. We probably sent out 60 invitations. We had a total of 26 people show up to the wedding- which was more people than I expected.

Some sort of invite needs to be sent. The form however should to be customized to fit your guests (since the invite isn't for you, it's for them). Also I'd highly suggest that you get up a wedding website before you send them out, that way you can include the website which can have much more detailed information. If they have to travel, they need more info, and websites are useful ways of sending info.

Email reminders are also excellent things (just don't abuse them) if you are worried about guests forgetting about wedding between when you send invites and the actual date. I sent my invites 5 months in advance since most people were traveling. They got an information reminder in November and get their next reminder first week of January, and a final reminder the last week of January.

Btw: vistaprint does orders in lots as small as 10.

I agree with Meghan, STDs and then invitations (even e-mail remainders!)

Yes, you should. And after the wedding, it is customary to send out Announcements to those who were unable to attend.

I never did STDs, all of our friends knew anyway and if they didn't, they got an invite that told them =]

What I've done for a lot of couples doing destination weddings is having an Engagement Portrait Session and incorporating the images on the invites, and images from the wedding in cards to send to everyone who couldn't make it with a little note telling everyone what you did. Not necessarily for all the distant friends or relatives, but for those who are really close and just couldn't make it, it's a nice little gift that makes them feel more inclusive and not so bad for having to miss out.

If you're looking for a photographer to join you on your special day, I'd love to speak with you. I do not charge for destination weddings.

Take care, and good luck and much happiness to you and yours!

Sarah Page

www.sarahpagephotography.com

Details of our venue info is on our website. If anyone wants alternate lodging(higher end), I told them to email me. We are actually sending out our formal invitations in June,so that we can have our final count when we go to Vermont to meet our caterer in August. That is when we make final payment to the caterer. Yes, it is probably too early, but it is the timing we need for our event.

One of the ways I stay in the know regarding those who are coming is by asking the owners of our B&B venue who has booked. There are only 29 rooms at our B&B, so around March, I will send reminder emails to any guests who have not booked. Naturally, I won't say you haven't booked..

Carly...we got free 100 save the dates (customized to how we like them) from the company we booked our wedding with. ( I pm'd you their info) and then we are doing save the dates about 3 months prior to the wedding as a last ditch kick in the pants to those who have procrastinated! YES, they made 100 gorgeous save the dates for free for us! All we have to do is mail them out!

@Cyndi..."We only invited immediate family to our DW and we sent invites. They weren't a traditional invite though. We sent personalized letters with the invites explaining why we choose to do things the way we did and to explain that we didn't intend to offend anyone and that we completely understood if our guests were unable to afford the travel expenses. We also created a brochure of various hotels and resorts that we recommended based on our research which was included in the "packet". We sent the packet 8 months before the wedding and we asked for rsvp's within three months of that date. I'd be happy to share more info if you want it, just pm me! .."

This is what im looking for but dont have a clue as to where to start...I have no idea how to pm... Please help

Avoid that all together by using a wedding website instead on paper invitations.

http://www.uniquelyyoumt.com/personalized-customized-wedding-websites/

View Quoted Comment Hi,

I’d love to see your wedding packet invitations. We are having a DW , just our families. Can you share all!

thanks!