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Trisha
Master August 2015

Do you post about your wedding on social media?

Trisha, on April 8, 2015 at 1:09 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 110

I posted a few things on Facebook in the first couple weeks, but then I read somewhere it's rude to the people not invited to the wedding, which I totally agree with. Most of my Facebook friends are adult enough to not care if they're not invited, but it's not necessary to post about it on FB. But...

I posted a few things on Facebook in the first couple weeks, but then I read somewhere it's rude to the people not invited to the wedding, which I totally agree with. Most of my Facebook friends are adult enough to not care if they're not invited, but it's not necessary to post about it on FB. But I've seen so many friends do it! From asking for RSVPs, to going as far as asking for everyone's addresses! (that had to have ended in disaster!)

I feel like I know the general consensus here as most of you are very etiquette-minded, but do any of you go against the rules on this one?

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  • KellyMarie
    Super May 2015
    KellyMarie ·
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    I post very general statuses, if I say anything at all. I think my last post about it was, "2 more months!" I try to keep it innocuous.

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  • Angie
    VIP August 2015
    Angie ·
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    I don't post on facebook that much at all. That's usually just pictures of my cakes and my dog. I definitely don't post about my wedding. My fw posted something about my wedding on facebook and stirred up a family feud (in MY family)! The only thing I have done is group messaged family members for their addresses. I don't want people that I only see on fb to hound me about coming to my wedding, so I don't post ANYTHING about it.

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  • X
    Expert August 2015
    xxxxxx ·
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    I haven't posted a single thing. There are only about 15 people who even know we're getting married this year. And they're all parents and siblings of ours. The rest of our family and friends will find out when they get their invite in the mail.

    I just remembered that one of FH's friends knows because my son invited his granddaughter at school the other day. Hahaha He called FH and was like "I heard you have some exciting news"!

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  • NaShara and Milton
    VIP May 2015
    NaShara and Milton ·
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    I rarely post anything on FB but on IG I post pictures of my engagement shoot. I don't want any one to know what's going on until after the wedding. I will post of my bridal shower, bachelorette and rehearsal dinner but that's about it before the big day.

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  • Marisslee
    VIP June 2015
    Marisslee ·
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    I post some things such as a countdown once in a while & that we've booked our honeymoon & when we switched venues. But that's all. One of my FB friends posted every little thing about hers -even asked people "If you want to be invited to our shower, message me your address!". WTF. And another FB friend has posted collages of every color scheme she changes her mind to & every single detail from dress to shoes to venue to who her vendors are... and she's not even getting married until the end of 2016. Some people are just excessive.

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  • Beth
    Master May 2015
    Beth ·
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    I post general things occasionally and I posted our engagement photos. I'll probably post stuff on/after the wedding and wedding photos. People can't get mad that they're not invited once it's over...well, I guess they can, but nothing can be done about it.

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  • Ms.FutureFord
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    Ms.FutureFord ·
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    I have posted little things such as venues stress or ideas, photog referrals ( i have some friends involved in modeling) but nothing more. i have a friend whos FW posts everyday something about her wedding with a bunch of hashtags and him tagged in it.. its kind of annoying, so i go off her ques, if i sound like her i dont post it lol

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  • Imtheone4Him
    Master September 2015
    Imtheone4Him ·
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    No i dont share on social media..i dont want people to think they're invited.

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  • Caitlin
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    Caitlin ·
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    I changed my relationship status to engaged and will probably post a few engagement pictures when we decide to get them, but otherwise I have not posted anything. I know some people who post literally everything about their wedding and they have to deal with awkward comments like "When am I getting my STD, invite, etc." It is pretty awkward when people assume they are invited. So I will try to limit what I post on facebook. I never even really post on facebook to begin with, anyway.

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  • Julia T
    Master August 2015
    Julia T ·
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    I don't have a twitter account. I have an IG but in the 2 years that I been only I posted one thing period. I use FB the most but I mostly just play the games.

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  • N
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    natalie ·
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    I have tried to not post anything through Facebook. FH has a lot of people of that aren't going to be invited (he played collegiate football) and I want to draw the least amount of attention to that.

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  • Miss S Dot
    Expert October 2015
    Miss S Dot ·
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    I posted pictures of me at the bridal shop looking for dresses and some engagement photos and probably my wedding date. Otherwise I've been pretty lowkey. My mother on the other hand has been going nuts. I have sent a few private messages to folks to get their address. Otherwise not so much posting..lol

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  • Trisha
    Master August 2015
    Trisha ·
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    I'm glad FH hasn't posted anything. He's a personal trainer and he's already had a ton of the gym regulars practically asking for an invite. It's gotten out of hand.

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  • jenna_
    Master March 2015
    jenna_ ·
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    Yep. i didn't do posts like asking for RSVPS or anything. just little comments about what planning i'd accomplished, what i was excited about, whatevs.

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  • Cassidy and Nick
    Super July 2016
    Cassidy and Nick ·
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    You can customize who can see what on your fb so while I was figuring out the guest list I added anyone on my friends list who was invited to a specific list I labeled "Wedding Guests" then when I make posts about the wedding I just change the privacy settings so it only shows up to people on that list.

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  • Kayla
    Super September 2015
    Kayla ·
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    I do not post anything on FB just because I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings that will not be getting an invite.

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  • Marisslee
    VIP June 2015
    Marisslee ·
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    @Cassidy that's a great idea! never thought of that.

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  • EatKnitRun
    Master May 2016
    EatKnitRun ·
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    You know I forgot about Pinterest. I pin A LOT but don't sent notifications to fb. My only wedding board that is secret is my dress, and I assumed most people would not notice my wedding pins. Wrong! I mentioned to one of my BMs something about our decor theme and she said, "Oh yeah I saw that you pinned a lot of stuff like that this week." Time to hide more boards!

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  • Kimberly
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    Kimberly ·
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    You can uncheck the "post to facebook" button everytime you pin something, you don't necessarily have to hide all your boards FYI.

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  • V
    Master October 2015
    VWCat ·
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    Very very very rarely. But after my friend's wedding (who I was not invited to and was 100% okay with that... she's like my wedding mentor lol), she told me #1 advice was not to post on FB/social media because she had so many people ask her for an invite/expect an invite/etc. I thought she did a very tasteful social media posts (diy projects, etc), but jeez, I guess it bit her in the butt!

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