Do you invite your future mother In law?

I invited my fmil but she declined as she lives oot. I did however have six people including my mom and step mom and while they had differing opinions they all supported me in the end 😊

Don’t invite her. Just say you want a nice day with your mom.

I had several appointments and my FMIL was at 2 of them. One was just me, FSIL and FMIL (FSIL lives far away so we made just a fun appt when she was home for Christmas) and the other was everyone: mom, stepmom, best friend and her mom, FMIL. Honestly I value my FMIL's opinion more than my own mom. I think because she hasn't known me my entire life, she could see which dresses were "me". My mom just wanted me 100% covered up lol Another reason I brought her was just as a nice gesture, she's only had boys get married and so she's never gotten to br part of that. She cried when I asked if she'd like to go.

All that said, if you don't have that relationship with her I definitely don't think it's required. A big reason why I had multiple appointments was to include everyone, however the appointment I actually purchased my dress at was just my best friend and her sister (the big sister I never had).

Also, my mom and FMIL hadn't met either, so we all met for a light lunch first then went to the appointment and that kind of broke the ice a little bit. Good luck!

I invited my FMIL to both my dress appointment and first fitting (she’ll probably also attend the other fittings) partially because she’s been so involved with the wedding and partially because it’s a nice way for us to bond.

It was an easy decision for me because my mom and she get along well and had met each other many times before. For you, I think it could be a nice way to include your FMIL - and maybe have the mom’s get to know each other - but you definitely have the right to say you’d just like it to be between you and your mom, especially if you think that she will complicate your appointment rather than add to it.

When I told mine i was going she was upset I hadn't asked her. I didn't want to intrude in my moms moment, so i told her she could come to the next appointment, but I wound up getting my dress.

I'm not close with my FMIL so I didn't invite her, but she also lives 2+ hours away. Even if she lived closer I don't think I would have invited her though.

I invited mine because I love her and wanted her to be part of the experience. I would never invite someone out of obligation. Only invite who you want for your special moment

No, I didn't either mother to initial dress appointments. My H went with me to the dress appointments, and then later I invited our siblings and moms to a dress appointment and had dinner after.

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I didn’t invite my FMIL because we aren’t super close (she thinks we are, but we aren’t- she’s done things to FH that made me lose respect for her). I wanted to invite my step-FMIL but didn’t because that would start a massive fight between me and FMIL and I didn’t want to deal with it.

I am not super close with my FMIL, so I did not invite her to go dress shopping. I went with my mom and that was it. It was better for me because she knows me, and I didn't want a lot of different opinions. I did however send pictures to my 2 best friends while we were shopping

Its up to you but my experience wasn't good and I have a decent relationship with her.

I've never understood taking a huge entourage shopping. I didn't have my mother or my fmil with me when I shopped for either of my dresses. If in doubt, I'd leave her out.

I didn't. I suspect she may have wanted to because she was constantly asking if I'd been yet but I only took people who I absolutely wanted there. I needed people who know my style and who wouldn't try push me into something. That was my mum on one trip and my MOH on another. If you're not close I think it will just be stressful

The first time I went it was just me and my MOH just to get a feel for what I was going for then the second time it was my MOH and one of my SIL'S joined us for one of the shops and then the last time I went looking I knew what dress I wanted but invited my FMIL and both of my SIL and my MOH to all see it before I ordered it, I sent my mom pictures because she lives 2+ hours away but she loves it too and was generous enough to pay the deposit to order that day over the phone with the shop. then we all went and got dinner after. If you have a decent relationship with your FMIL I'd say at least invite her to be polite, I'm sure your mom and her will want to meet before the wedding anyway, and can hopefully get along for an afternoon.

I am inviting my grandma, my niece, FMIL, FSIL and both of FH's nieces.

That is absolutely up to you and your relationship with your FMIL. If you want her there then absolutely invite her! I invited my FMIL along with my mom, FSIL, and two friends, and we had a blast! The boutique gave us champagne after I said yes and we all got to bond and enjoy our day.

I only took my mom and one of my bridesmaids. I didn’t want too many opinions and I’m not super close with my fmil.

I did invite my FMIL... I know she appreciated it. She can be a bit overbearing but with all my girls there, I knew it would be stifled haha.

I invited my FMIL and had a whole gaggle of people with me. It was nice to have everyone there.