Do you invite out of town guests to shower?

I'm curious about this too, my MOH told me she wants a list of who to invite to the bridal shower at some point and I'm not sure what the etiquette here is either. I have been to both where it's a few of the nearest and dearest and I have been to one where every woman that was invited to the wedding was invited to the shower. I was thinking of keeping it to people I'm close with but don't want to offend anyone either. Definitely following this!

My MOH also asked for a list. My mom and my FMIL gave her a list of every women that is invited to the wedding. Including OOT guest since they are all family. Most of the time if they cant make it they will send a gift anyway.

My wedding guests are mostly family and DH's family majority are local. The only ladies i didn't include when my bridesmaids asked me for a list was my coworkers because they told me they were throwing me a shower at work. It really depends on the host. Some just do close family and friends others invite all the ladies. I have see showers with both men and women now too. My DH said he didn't want to attend and would rather it be just the girls but to save him some food LOL.

We invited my aunts and cousins - and actually 3 came from out of town, as well as FSIL's sister from out of town since she was around for Thanksgiving.

We decided to only invite people who we thought might make the trip - and about a month later my mom, an aunt and I made the 3 hour trip to a cousin's baby shower. Our family is known to travel for events like this - but not all families are.

I didn't put any of FH's friends on our shower list, first because I think it's a little strange since they're not my friends, and secondly because they all live about 5 hours away.

We did because several close family members are out of town and we didn't want them to feel left out. We didn't expect them to come though.

I talked to my Mom who is paying for the shower and she said to invite them. She was more concerned about people feeling left out so she said invite them and they can come if they are able.

Mine was kept in-state (within a 45-minute drive), except for 2 of our grandmothers and my MIL's friend, who lived just over the state line. Out of state aunts and cousins were not invited, since it would have required a flight to attend. One grandmother did fly to attend.

I'm from NY and my FH is from MA (where we now live). My sister is throwing a bridal shower in NY since we are getting married near where we live. We are inviting everyone. Some of my FH's aunts, cousins said they'd love to take the trip and also visit the city while down. Whoever can't come to NY will be invited to a smaller shower thrown by my FMIL

I asked my mom and FMIL for input. Most of the local people I know were invited (left off 2 or 3 local friends of FH's family that I've met once and would feel super gift grabby inviting) and then all the women in my family even though they're all OOT because Mom said theyd expect to be invited and had started asking. Then I added one OOT close family friend of FHs family that FMIL said would want to be invited. I left off FHs OOT family at FMILs direction.

So i am having two showers one is near all my out of town guest and the other is in town with my friends and the family i have here. It was just easier that way so everyone could enjoy in a shower of me. (fmil idea)

I'm stuck on this too. FMIL and my FSILs are all on the east coast and I am in Seattle. It requires pretty much a whole day of travel to get here. I know they won't come, but I want to make them feel included (not expecting gifts btw)

My mom asked me for the list, I invited close family thats out of town (ie my godparents, an aunt, and a cousin) FIL had some friends from out of town they are inviting and I did not include them on the list. I think it would be awkward for them to receive an invite for a gifting party for me when they do not know me they only know FH. As I think my godmother and such would of been slightly offended if not thought of even though she doesn't live around the corner

I have a few family members out of town and out of state. I invited them but I also let them know I am not expecting them to make stressful arrangements and I completely understand if they can't make it. I just didn't want them to feel left out or not though of, by not inviting them at all. Some are actually coming and others let me know they couldn't

I didn't invite any OOT guests, with the exception of MIL. I knew she wouldn't come, but I just included her on the list I gave my host out of respect.

I invited immediate female family, all the bridesmaids, and then in-town friends!

ETA: For me, I didn't want to ask other OOT friends to travel for yet another thing, and since showers are a gift-giving event I didn't want to feel gift-grabby. But I also was not excluding any family or friends who would have been hurt by not getting an invite!

Just depends on how big the host wants the shower to be. We will be inviting OOT guests, but it's subjective.

I wasn't sure about this myself. My sister/MOH is throwing me a shower, she currently lives in California, and I live in Canada, she's flying in to throw me the shower. With that said, I gave her a list, which included some of my OOT friends, which will be invited to the wedding. I hope my OOT friends don't think I'm being gift grabby, it was more of a gesture, a courtesy invite, I want these friends/guest to feel/know that although they are not close geographically (in the same city, province or country) that I want them included in all festivities surrounding the wedding albeit in spirit.

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My aunt asked me for a list to go off of - I included close OOT family but didn't include OOT friends. I don't know if people will be able to make the trip, but it's my aunts and young cousins and with my family they would have hurt to not be included. I think it depends on your crowd!

The only oot guest that I invited was fsil.

Yes, I did. Almost all of my family and friends came from across states to be there!