Do you have to make your sister your Maid of Honor?

It's all up to you. Something to think about though, is if it will cause family drama? My sister is younger than me, just turned 21, and still pretty immature. We get along great when she is 9 hours away, not so much when she is home (she picks the stupidest battles sometimes). I would have loved to have my bff as my MOH, but I know that doing so would have caused more drama than I was willing to deal with in my family, and would have ruined any relationship I hope to have with my sister as she matures/grows up. Like I said, it's absolutely your choice who to make your MOH, just be aware of any drama it might cause.

I was my best friend's MOH and her sister was a bridesmaid. They're not crazy close so there were no issues. Same thing happened when the sister got married. My best friend was just a BM.

Neither of my sisters are in my wedding party let alone MOH. it's completely up to you. I would absolutely include her the best you can though. My sisters are included in everything.

I have 3 sisters, and we are all pretty close. But, none of them are in our wedding party.

Pick who you want but be ready for hurt feelings. My FH should have picked his best friend for his BM but unfortunately chose his brother who he is no longer close with because he didn't want his mom to freak out.

You are never obligated to ask someone to be a bridesmaid or MOH, but there will likely be hurt feelings. The fact that you were her MOH last year does suggest that she will expect to be asked. Co-MOH may be a good way to avoid drama if that is your goal. If your goal is to avoid asking your sister to be MOH, then don't ask. If your family tends to be reasonable then any drama will blow over.

I have 2 sisters, my sister that I'm closer to is my MOH and the other is a bridesmaid and practically like an Assistant MOH (and when this sister got married she didn't want to choose between us so she chose her BFF). But I'm also SUUUUUPER close with both of them.

The ONLY thing that I would suggest is that your sister doesn't find out from anyone but you that she's not your MOH.

I picked a man as my MOH because he's my best friend. I can't imagine anyone else by my side. My other best friend I made a bridesmaid. I probably would have actually regretted if I only picked my best girl friend and not my best guy friend, or if I switched her to MOH instead. I got a few comments, but ultimately, I made the exact decision I want for my day. I've even been asked why I didn't pick FH's sister, who I'm not close to, or my college friend that I'm inviting but I'm not THAT close to. I wanted a small bridal party, so I kept it small. Plus, we decided we would buy our party's outfits for them as their gift, so we couldn't afford many more

I really encourage you to make the decision that YOU want, and not the decision that others TELL YOU that you should want. Pick the people you can't imagine not being by your side on that special day and through the process, and you'll be much happier Best of luck!

I had this exact problem. I thought my sister had to be my MOH, because blood is thicker than water and all that jazz. - this really concerned me because my sister is honestly very rude and very self centered. I wouldn't have trusted her to plan any parties for me at all.

Then I told my mom and she explained that your best friend should be your MOH, not your sister just because she is your sister.

Pick who you want! But I choose my big sister as my maid of honor because she was my first "best friend ". I could not imagine my sister as anything else

I have 2 sisters, and we're very close. But I also have a best friend, who is the sister of my soul. I asked my BFF to be my MOH because I couldn't imagine it any other way.

Don't make excuses for other people. Make your decision and own it

View Quoted Comment Oh so I’m not the only one with a sister who literally could have cared less the day I got engaged and didn’t even say congrats to my now fiancé. Awful. I plan on my two best friends as MOH and sister as bridesmaid. (We have since tried to work on our relationship). I can’t imagine any two people better to help me plan and make an amazing speech