Do you have to make your sister your Maid of Honor?

No hun you pick who you want! ETA: try not to make it seem like "cuz she has a new baby" new moms don't wanna feel left out for that reason use the across country reason if any but she should realize you're not obligated

Yea pick who you want. My sister isn't my MOH. We were super close growing up until middle school and then as we got older got closer but I've always said I will pick my cousin who is my best friend. I asked my sister first tho and she was okay with it. She is helping planning my bachelorette party. She will say a speech at my wedding rehearsal dinner.

Also my mom picked her sister to be in her wedding but her sister didn't pick her and my mom wish she picked her best friend who is my godmother. So go with who you want so you don't regret it

Tell her how it is

Your bridal party is who you make it. My sister is mine but only because I can't imagine her not being. If it's not the same relationship then it's just not.

It's whoever you want. I have an older sister (18 months). We were never really close. We're complete opposites. She's not my MOH, she's not in the BP at all. I really don't think it was a surprise to her that i didn't ask.

Just pick whoever you want! My sister mixed in with my friend group well despite us not hanging together in the past.

I didn't make my sister my MOH. I mean, I love her dearly, but she and I aren't that close.

I don't think you should ask her to be your MOH based on your description of your relationship. Do you think it would cause irreparable harm to your relationship to make her a BM? If so, MFB's suggestion of co-MOHs is a decent compromise. My sister was my MOH, but it was because I wanted her to be. She is my best friend, and the person I am closest to (other than H of course). My husband chose his best friend as his BM, and he asked his brother to be a GM. My husband is just not as close with his brother. Everyone's familial relationships are different.

I have two sisters and neither of them were in the wedding party. I wanted my three best friends to stand up with me. And my sisters were fine with it.

I feel you should ask who you want whether it's family or friends.

Pick who you want and who you envision having a blast with!

It's YOUR choice

My sister is in my bridal party but my best friend is my MOH. You pick who you want, not who u feel obligated to pick

Maybe you shouldn't give titles like MOH. I didn't to avoid hurt feelings with my friends and they're actually excited to be planning everything together so that one person doesn't end up with all the stress. Then you can ask your friend and your sister to say something at the reception. I'm sure your sister will be very upset not being your MOH because for many people family comes before friendship, but like others said just talk to her. I'm sure the excuse that she's not in the same state and a new mom is understanding.

I would recommend co MOHs. I did this and while initially my best friend was pissed that she had to share, she then had a blast having a partner in crime and someone to help when she was too busy to do everything she wanted. Everybody wins!

My sister isn't even in my party.....you pick who you want!

My only sister isn't even a BM. Why? Because the night I got engaged, she stared at us..turned around and went into her bedroom and wailed, sobbing for hours. She's been nothing but jealous.

Pick who you want. It's your wedding.

My sister and I are not close at all. I have known for years she would not be my maid of honor. My best friend of 20 years who is basically a sister to me, and is close to my family will be my maid of honor. I am still going to ask her (my sis) to be a bridesmaid.

ETA: Ask the person whom you are closest. The person who if you could only have one person there with you, thats who you would want. Helping to include your sister as a BM or in the ceremony in some way does help if they are sensitive or you don't want to hurt feelings.

My sisters are both much younger than me. I made both my MOHs because I felt like I had to, and also because I was in a weird situation with my friends group where it would have been rocky if I had picked a MOH from among them for all sorts of interpersonal reasons. I'm glad I did. They certainly haven't done the heavy lifting for the event. (It feels like my mom has been MOH in that sense! She is the wedding angel!!) but they were happy to have been included in that way and it made things easier for my other friends too. Sometimes practical choices work well, imo.

This MAY cause some family drama. In my family, (mind you I only have one sister who is my identical twin) and although I have some friends I am PHYSICALLY closer to and see on a more regular basis, I couldn't imagine having her as my MOH and her mine. But pick who you want. My mother would get all bent out of shape if I didn't pick my sister as my MOH actually, and it'd cause so many headaches to go along in the future. Also I don't want to upset my other friends who I asked to be BMs because they can't get upset if my MOH is my sister, there's no competition.

Nope, you don't. I wasn't my younger sister's MOH, her best friend was. We are close but I was perfectly fine with it.