Do you have to have a Maid of Honor?

You and I are in the exact same situation. I do not have a MOH and don't plan on having one. I love all of my girls equally. I think one feels a little slighted but I don't care. It's my wedding and I couldn't dream of elevating one over the other.

No worries. You don't have to have one.

Having a MOH isn’t a necessity.

It’s not necessary!! Just make sure you space out their speeches during reception or they keep them very short so guests aren’t overwhelmed

You don't need to pick one! I would just keep them all as bridesmaids!

I think there is nothing wrong with choosing to not have one, even if you FH has a best man. I was the MOH of my sisters and learned quickly that you rely on ALL your bridesmaids. I think you are fine

I kind of think the plan you have is good. MOH isn't a requirement. If your girl friends are okay with sharing the duties it, I'd say go for it.

I also had 3 bridesmaids and no MOH because I didn't want to choose one over the other. However, keep in mind that anyone can choose to plan and host the shower and/or bachelorette party - even outside your wedding party (moms, aunts, sisters, friends, etc.) and no one has to give a speech. I just asked them if anyone wanted to give a speech and one of them did. The "speeches" should be no more than 2-3 minutes and are actually toasts rather than some long 5-10 minute speech. My 3 bridesmaids worked together to plan a couples shower and a spa day for my bachelorette party.

I have ONLY a maid of honor. It is the oldest of my 3 sisters. I also have 2 brothers not involved. I feel kinda bad that we don't have a wedding party, per se, but just because they are blood doesn't make them suitable. I have a deep and dark history with one sister and the other is just "not there". FH is having ONLY a best man. There is no flower girl, hostess, etc. It's our wedding and this is what we have chosen to do. It's still a full on reception, but the ceremony itself is strictly immediate blood family. Mom, Dad, siblings, grandparents. Point is, it's YOUR wedding. Screw tradition

It’s up to you! Afterall, it’s your day. I think if you’re having ig a hard time choosing, it’s totally fine to have them all as bridesmaids.

No you do not have to have a maid of honor if you don't want to have to choose between your three good friends.

I have one maid of honor who is my best friend. I'm glad I picked her because she has been helping me so much with wedding planning, much more so than anyone else in my wedding party. For me it was necessary and I'm glad I made a good choice in picking her.

I have 2 girls and I’m having a hard time trying to decide who is going to stand next to me.. I kept them both as bridesmaids. They both mean the world to me, and they were both in my first wedding way back when. My bridesmaid J (I’m calling her) was my matron of honor back then and then M was just a bridesmaid.l back then too. But now, M wants to be MOH cause she feels it’s her turn to be next to me this time around. Now I wish I didn’t do bridesmaids/groomsmen. So I’m so stuck and confused!

Hi there

As the previous posters mentioned, you don't have to have a maid of honor, even if your FH is having a best man! It's totally what you're most comfortable with!

Have you decided what you will do? Will you have a maid/matron of honor?

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Yeah I'm just going to have them all as bridesmaids