Do you gift the couple when you decline a wedding invitation?

It depends on who it is. Last summer we were invited to quite a few weddings (all FH's friends) but couldn't go to most because of his crazy work schedule. For his childhood friend we contributed to a gift with his parents since they were able to attend. For his co-worker he'd never talked to outside of work we didn't send anything. We also didn't send anything to the couple who only inviting us to "drinks and dancing".

If it's someone on my side and I have a conflict but would like to go, I usually pick something from the registry and have it sent to their house.

As others have said, I go by individual situations. My FH and I flew to TN from TX for a short weekend to go to his buddy’s “wedding” (turns out they’d been married for over a year and just wanted to get to have a wedding and reception). They’d been married for over a year and still registered for gifts. Both of these are fine. But we didn’t get them anything because it already cost us so much to be there for the celebration.

Depending on how close I am to the bride and/or groom I would.

Depends. If it’s a wedding I’d want to go to but seriously can’t, then I’d send a card and a check. If I’m declining because it’s just not a wedding I want to go to, like if I wasn’t that close to the people, then I wouldn’t.

If I think it's a gift grab, no. And I have def been on the B list and declined and didn't send a gift. No thanks! Not wasting my money on you. I haven't declined a dear friends wedding yet.

I think we've only turned down 1 wedding invitation and it was for a distant cousin's daughter who lives out of state. I was surprised we were invited to be honest, but I still sent a card and a gift off their registry.

I've only declined one wedding but I felt it was appropriate to still send a gift since it was a good friend and I felt bad that I couldn't make it.

Yes, always. I always think if someone thinks enough of me to invite me, I certainly would want to give them a gift.

We also got gifts from people who couldn't make our wedding and from some people who weren't invited to the wedding, which was so thoughtful and sweet. There were some people who couldn't make it who didn't send a card or gift and some people who came to the wedding who didn't give a gift. Everyone is different.

Depends on how close to them I am.

I usually purchase an item off their registry when I decline or I send a check in a card.