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Laura
Super December 2014

Do you ever feel guilty when receiving wedding gifts?

Laura, on December 10, 2014 at 7:50 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

My parents bought FH something that had been on the registry for Christmas, so I went online to remove it. I had seen during the weekend that 10 gifts had been purchased, which I thought was so thoughtful!

I came home today to 3 large boxes. We opened all the boxes only to realize all 10 gifts had come from the same person- one of my best friend's parents. These 10 gifts were not individually cheap by any means. I am EXTREMELY grateful by their generosity. But at the same time I have such a huge feeling of guilt. FH and I had purposely made sure there was nothing over $100 on the registry, and tried to keep most things around $25 because we really just want their presence and a gift would just be a bonus. We actually weren't going to do a registry, but after people kept asking we decided to do a small one with about 20 gifts.

I am writing a thank you note now, but at the same time I can't help but feel it isn't enough.

Am I the only one that feels this way?

12 Comments

Latest activity by Cheri, on December 10, 2014 at 9:08 PM
  • OMW
    Master August 2013
    OMW ·
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    Only with one thing - one of the groomsmen went to Tiffany's and bought us a beautiful crystal decanter. It's lovely, but the most expensive gift we received.

    I was cool with everything else. We didn't register for expensive things.

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  • Pancakes
    Master October 2015
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    Honestly I hate getting gifts. I'd much prefer that money go towards something more useful than a material object for myself. And I also feel awkward opening presents in front of people.

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  • AndixLyn
    Master June 2015
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    I feel guilty getting any gifts. just be gracious about it, tell them they were more generous than they had to be and it means so much etc.

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  • OG Mrs.K (2.0)
    Master September 2014
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    I don't feel guilty, just grateful.

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  • Nicoletta
    Super January 2015
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    Some people have spent a lot of money on us, I tried to put a mix of price points but some people (non family) have spent over $200 on us and people that are not even rich, like Mrs. K, I feel grateful people are so generous with helping us start out our life together!

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  • GoneAndMarried
    Master August 2015
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    I totally want to know what you received!!! I love registries and stalk them to see what people want lol

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  • Laura
    Super December 2014
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    @JK- Lol. Your comment made me laugh. 65 piece set of silver silverware, medium pasta bowl, large rectangular platter, round serving bowl, dip tray, set of latte mugs, medium rectangular platter, 2 sets of fiesta silverware, 1 set of dinner plates, dutch oven

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  • S
    Master June 2015
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    Wow that was really generous of them! i can understand feeling guilty over lavish presents, but as the same time you have to remind yourself, you didn't make them do that. They wanted to be generous and that's great! Maybe in addition to the thank you card, next time you see them thank them, so they can see in person how much you appreciate it.

    ETA: I didn't see your last post before I entered mine....just wanted to add a double wow. That is a lot!

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  • GoneAndMarried
    Master August 2015
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    Holy fuck that is a lot of stuff! Wow that was incredibly generous!!!

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  • Laura
    Super December 2014
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    Yes! It was! This is why I feel so guilty! I even went online and pretended to buy something to make sure it shows the order multiple times before the transaction is completed. It is seriously like half of our registry. I was borderline crying after I realized it was all from her parents- not because I was sad I was just shocked. I think I've decided to call and tell them thank you tomorrow, and then send another formal thank you after the wedding. And of course thank them at the wedding.

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
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    Damn. They get a really nice thank-you card.

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  • Cheri
    VIP September 2015
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    I don't like getting gifts especially from people I barely know, I just feel guilty and awkward.

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