Do you ask people to give toasts?

Coming from an MOH perspective that just had a very awkward conversation with the bride, yes. You do ask them. A very polite "would you like to give a toast at the reception?" Will suffice. Same goes for FOB or anyone else you'd like to speak.

I'm planning on asking my brother to give a toast at the reception in place of my father, so yes I think it's a good idea to ask.

Oh no! Why was it awkward (so I can not do that)?

Definitely ask.

Thanks guys! I don't know why I didn't think of the phrasing "would you like to" instead of "will you." :-P That definitely sounds like the right way to ask!

I didn't have to ask. They were already awake. The BM started talking about it about 10 minutes into being asked and how excited he was. With my MOH I planned on asking her but she actually texted me saying her mom informed her that she was required to since she was MOH and asked if she could talk about certain things. We just laughed about it. I was a little nervous to ask her since anything "wedding" isn't really her thing, but have been shocked about how involved she's been and interested in it all.

I asked who would like to in order to time everything for our reception. We had 7 people who wanted to give toasts and FH was giving the welcome toast so I had to split it up and some spoke at the RD and some spoke at the reception because our DJ basically said No Way to 7 speakers at the reception. Lol!! It's good to know in advance and just ask politely and it won't be awkward at all.

I was helping look over her timeline and saw "toasts" on there. Given that the bride has 2 MOHs and the groom has 2 BM, I wasn't assuming anything about toasts. So I asked "Oh, you're having toasts?" She said "Yeah, are those the speeches? I saw it on another timeline so I just put it on there. Who gives those? Do I have to ask you guys?" Yeah... I got a text from her a hour or so after I got home officially asking me to be the one to give the toast.

Then again, FH has his brother as BM and they've been talking about the toast since before he asked. Generally, if the topic hasn't been brought up, don't assume and give them some time to put their toast together.

I didn't ask anyone, so just my MOH and BM gave speeches-- kept things short and sweet. On the flip side, my baby brother asked me to give one at his rehearsal dinner, and one parent on each side gave one at the reception.

I've never been "formally" asked to give a toast at the weddings I've been MOH/will be MOH in. I feel like it's an assumed thing. Our MOH and BM are our siblings, so we didn't even need to ask.

Once I was asked to give a speech at a wedding...while I was in the car on the way over to the ceremony. I was not a bridesmaid. I knew nothing about the groom other than how they met and I still cringe thinking about trying to come up with something on the fly as a toast. If I had had some time to prepare, it would have been a piece of cake.

Whatever you do, discuss with whoever you want to give a toast, even if you think they should assume they're doing a toast or speech, at bare bones minimum 24 hours in advance.

I'm maybe thinking about our parents saying something, but that's still in the air.

Our BM will give a toast, our MOH (my sister) doesn't want to--she said she can't talk in front of a group of people. I just said okay. So just BM and then FH will give a SHORT welcome toast and that will be it. FH always says he doesn't say much, that he's more of a listener--lol, he could talk the leg off a table! Which is why I'm emphasizing short to him!

Don't do what I did at my first wedding, I spring it on them at the reception. It was awkward. You just reminded me. I probably should bring up the subject with FH and our wedding party.

FMIL just asked us tonight is anyone was. We aren't making anyone, but if members if the BP want to they can (only 3 adults). I'm not sure if FMIL wants to or not. I doubt FFIL does. Nit even giving my mother the option. She has no filter and frequently says inappropriate things. Not on my wedding day mom, not on my wedding day.