Do y’all actually enjoy wedding planning?

I’ve enjoyed it, but honestly the dress stress was real, the Covid blues have taken a toll, so I get it. It’s a lot. I’m trying to stay optimistic and take some time away from planning to and do me.

Personally I would love to receive an invite to an event even if its a few months away it gives me hope that the world will be a bit better then and I think sending out the save the dates is a good idea. We live 400 miles from our family too and I understand its hard, specially with the times as they are, we feel as if our engagement just got shoved under the rug. I find wedding planning calms me since I'm a planner, but if its something you're not too fond of take it a task at a time, do other things you love to do and can do while staying safe. I'm thinking about picking up knitting or dress making for my cats (they are excited)

OH MY GOSH this is exactly where I’m at!! I feel so horrible for my FH because any time we have to do anything involving the wedding I get super stressed. Our venue permanently closed due to COVID and took our deposit, so have had to start from square one with that. On top of that, we just did our engagement photos and my photographers have been acting really weird towards us since then so now I feel really uncomfortable with them and like they don’t like us. You are definitely not alone, and I think the added pressure of being a bride planning a wedding during COVID hikes up the stress levels.

I hated the whole process! My best friend, mother, and I all joked about how they were doing all of the planning, because it was not enjoyable for me. I was constantly overwhelmed & stressed out. I have always been a pretty simple person, and a big ceremony wasn't really my thing. I just felt pressured from family to do the big ceremony. I was supposed to get married this fall, but because of corona, we decided to just elope at the end of this month & cancel the ceremony altogether. As soon as we made the decision, the stress completely went away & now I'm actually excited!

Also, my FH is a simple guy too, and he also gets very anxious around large crowds. He was dreading the large ceremony too. He was thrilled when I suggested something more intimate. My parents are also putting all of the money that was going to go towards the wedding towards our honeymoon fund now, and we are so excited to get to take an amazing trip when it's safe!

(Also wanted to add, I was such a horrible bride that we only put a deposit on a venue and booked our photographer....which ended up being really nice when we decided to elope!) My photographer is going to come to our elopement & take pictures for us still!

I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I absolutely loved wedding planning and honestly miss it! That being said, I was not a Covid bride, and I can't imagine the stress you must feel trying to plan your dream wedding during this time. Take it a step at a time so you don't overwhelm yourself. Maybe you and you parents can Zoom/FaceTime plan together a night a week to make it fun? Do you have any close friends you can do fun wedding planning things with?

The WW community is always here if you have questions, need to vent, or just want to talk wedding stuff. Most of us really love all things weddings! Good luck with the rest of your planning !

You're Not Alone-Im Planning Our Wedding Completely Alone. I Try To get My FH To Help Choose Things And Help Put Stuff Together But Hes Really Not Into It And Doesn't Care What I Choose. I Mostly Get Opinions From My Sister Through Facebook If I Need Them. I Also Had To Go Dress Shopping Alone. it Hasnt Been The Greatest Experience For Me And I Just Want It To Come And Go So iCan Enjoy Myself On Our Wedding Day And Not Stress About It Anymore.

Not Alone! I feel somewhat the same way. I wanted a small wedding on a beach or vegas and my fiance wanted the big wedding. Well here we are a year into our engagement and a year out from the wedding and im planning it alone. My parents are moving to another state and havent helped much, my MOH is in another wedding, and my FH parents dont give a crap.. I have told my Fiance that he needs to help and i get nothing from him. We are just so busy with life. Im so frustrated and feel alone.. So far I have venue, cater, decorator, photobooth.

I have asked my bridesmaids all to help that im alone and lost and nothing. My first wedding dress appt. also didnt go over so well but now i know somewhat what im looking for just gotta keep moving.

Well before covid I hated wedding planning. I never wanted to have a wedding because I dreaded the planning of it. I love planning vacations and parties, but something about how SERIOUS and FINAL weddings are is so overwhelming. There's so much pressure for it to be this BIG and PERFECT day. There's so many other people who want their way regarding guest list and location (my family is all over the country so there is no compromise). I know I'm hurting feelings by not inviting everyone because I want a smaller reception, and I know I'm inconveniencing everyone by making them fly across the country to where I live. I felt too much attention on me when trying on dresses, I hate how expensive everything is, I just didn't like any of it! Not to mention my wedding was supposed to be May, so just when everything was figured out and ready we went on lockdown and we postponed. Now I'll have to do it all over again next year! You're not alone!

I get it. I didn’t enjoy my planning that’s because most of my planning was through this stupid virus. So I’m not excited planning. My venue just cancelled so now I’m on the great time to move the date stage with venue and vendors.

The only thing I haven’t liked is the RSVPs because people have sent them back with no names and creating a table chart for our seated dinner 🍽.

View Quoted Comment I relate to you so much on this! I did not want a wedding at all. I wanted to use the money that would’ve been spent on a wedding to elope in Hawaii because that has always been my dream, but I thought it was important that if he wanted an actual wedding with his family that he gets that. Here we are almost 6 months into planning and I feel like I’m doing it all alone. He helps with what he can, but I think he doesn’t enjoy it just as much as I don’t. I also thought I’d feel better after getting a dress and that things would feel more real, but at my first appointment I couldn’t fit any of the dresses they had in the entire store, so I just felt so ugly and discouraged. I used to wonder why people hated wedding planning so much because it is supposed to be such a happy time, but I did not expect it to be this much stress!!!

Awwww I personally find it a little overwhelming but it's like studying. You know it's worth it once you get your dream day.

Susie x

Well, Pre-Covid I liked wedding planning, because I didn't really care lol. I had the venue, the dress, and I had 0 expectations to make it "the perfect day". I just wanted to get married and party with my family and friends! Either way, my wedding would be nice. I would say that the only thing that would stress me out is if someone fainted at my wedding or if the place caught on fire. Well "pandemic" is pretty close!

Hey there Ashley!


As an older bride, I enjoyed every second of the process. Probably, because after two failed engagements, I finally found who I'm meant to be with, after waiting so long.
That being said, it was stressful at times, especially the last two weeks before the wedding.What was helpful for me, was taking it one day at a time, one task at a time, so it wasn't overwhelming.
I did all of my own flowers and decorating, which added to the stress. I'd say just trust your gut, don't try to be perfect, in the end, it will all work out.
Take a break when needed, a day, a week, whatever you need to recharge... simply wedding free. Then dive back in.Ask for help when you need it.
Try to enjoy the process, it really is an amazing experience and time of your life, that thankfully you won't have to conquer again
It's all about the journey and memories made on the way. Good luck, don't be so hard on yourself! You will get through it and enjoy the fruits of your labor, on your big day. You will be proud of yourself for all that you accomplished!

Not anymore!!! Loved it at first. COVID has really taken the joy out of a lot of it for me. Everything is just stressful now.

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. How you are feeling is very common and a lot of brides go through it. I will say that for me personally, I loved planning my wedding b/c I'm a huge planner and am extremely organized. However, with that said, I did have a few moments while planning where I was just not happy with the way things were working out. I didn't like specific aspects of planning and how stressful it became at some points. When I hit those moments, I took a step back and didn't look at anything having to do with the wedding for a week or two and then went back to it. I also used a day planner to plan out what dates I wanted specific parts of the planning process done by and what dates I was going to order specific things. This gave me smaller goals to meet instead of having every part of the wedding in my head at all times. I only focused on one or two things until their due date, then I moved onto the next items.

Planning isn’t for everyone. I see it here on WW all the time.... indecisive brides who don’t have a clear overall vision of how they want their day to look and feel. So they’re all over the place, not sure how to organize the planning, trying to incorporate every single trend, struggling creatively and become stressed. But, I LOVE planning events in general. However, I was also a wedding & event planner for 10 years before stopping 4 years ago. I’ve pretty much seen everything and nothing is really new or has changed much since the early 2000s. So, naturally, I find planning easy and because I know exactly what I want and simply follow through with executing the vision.


Hopefully the rest of your planning will be better.

Don't feel bad. It's a very stressful thing to do especially now. I didn't enjoy wedding planning nearly as much as i had hoped i would. I was super stressed about EVERYTHING!!! Trying to make decisions about things like your dress, the venue, who's going to marry you and then table clothes and napkins...WHO CARES! I offered to elope probably every other week.

All i can tell you is that we had a beautiful wedding, it went off without a hitch and now we have some great memories. It's worth it, and it will feel worth that day. Everything else leading up to it is just noise.

Yes and No. Yes because I am a planner and I like to be organized especially with important events. No because of the uncertainty of everything and my fiance sometimes freaking out about money (legitimate but he's been married before). I say just take it one step at a time and take a break from planning, you will need it because you will start to feel overwhelmed (telling you from experience and my wedding date is April 2022). I have planned out pretty much everything,now it's just a waiting game to surmise if we are going to put money down and go for it. Hope I helped you think it through.