I feel like such a crappy bride to be/fiancé because I haven’t enjoyed any aspect of this wedding planning stuff. I constantly just feel stressed out and overwhelmed. I’ve never been a huge planner or very controlling. My fiancé is great and tries to help, but wants me to do most of it. My parents are 800 miles away and haven’t been able to come down and really be a part of it because of COVID....I had one dress appointment but it wasn’t a good experience at all. She made me feel uncomfortable.
I have a venue(and the woman there is phenomenal), I have a DJ, photog... I have a bad feeling about the photog now and I don’t know why. The officiant we loved just cancelled. I ordered save the dates but feel weird sending them out with the current situation in the world/./ I don’t know. I just hope I’m not alone in feeling like this. I’m excited for the wedding, and the marriage. Just getting there has really sucked for me. I’m sorry I sound so whiney when there’s so much else going on in the world.
I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I would send out your save the dates. If I was someone receiving one I would feel so excited, it would give me something to look forward to. Wedding planning is very overwhelming. Take a day or two and forget about planning and spend time doing something you love!
You are not alone in feeling this way! Wedding planning can certainly be stressful, overwhelming, and not fun at times. Especially in the times of COVID, wedding planning hasn't been too exciting lately. Take things at your own pace, and try not to focus on too many things at once. Definitely send out your Save The Dates, and keep looking for a dress! As more things start to fall into place, the process will likely feel more enjoyable. I agree with the previous comment of taking breaks and planning fun activities!
No, I love weddings!! They are really awesome!! But with everything going on its really hard to be enthusiastic about it! I get it though!! It'll be okay!! It's supposed to be fun and enjoying this time but sometimes there are times when it's not very fun. LOL
It’s definitely not for everyone! I’m very Type A (very organized, neurotic, lawyer haha) so I have been loving planning ours but it’s certainly not a fun process for everyone, let alone when things are stressful. Hang in there!
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I think that’s what I’m feeling, just burnt out. My dad started texting me about what I want him to wear and colors and clothes and I’m already starting to feel a little better. You are right, the big stuff can be tedious
I enjoyed wedding planning up until COVID started. I loved researching ideas, looking at inspiration photos, and working on diy projects. Every part of it got me more and more excited! But now with COVID I feel like I'm stressed all the time, and overwhelmed not knowing how the day will turn out, so I have to take breaks here and there. Although, whenever I get a task done or book the next vendor, the wedding excitement and thinking about marrying my man definitely outweighs that stress!
At first I didn’t because the cost really had me stressed out to the max. Before covid we decided to just have a backyard wedding which just wasnt my *dream* wedding. After covid put a wrench into the plans we were able to get a wonderful venue and not be as stressed.
I think it’s totally normal. I spent a lot of my wedding planning process feeling guilty that I wasn’t having fun. The truth is, it’s a lot more “fun” in hindsight lol. It’s very stressful while you’re going through it. Try to be easy on yourself and don’t beat yourself up for not enjoying every moment. It’s very stressful and it’s normal to feel that way! But at the same time, try to find some good in it. You don’t have to be excited and having fun dealing with finances or venue logistics, but there must be SOME aspect you can find to enjoy. Weirdly, putting together our invitation suites and addressing the envelopes was actually “fun” to me. Idk why 😂 I guess I was just really happy with our invitations, I like being crafty, and it made the wedding feel really “real”! I also enjoyed writing my vows. And although the seating chart was stressful, it was also a little fun honestly to play with the diagram and try to visualize our wedding.
Find some little joys in the process! But don’t feel guilty for not enjoying every moment.
I am the same way. I was so excited when I got engaged and jumped on planning right away. But I found out really quickly how overwhelming and stressful it is. Now I just can't wait for my wedding to be here so I don't have to worry about it anymore.
I was very excited to be married, and we had a short engagement, which was fun.
I'm pretty decent at research and planning things, and we treated it like a theatre production (we're both actors), so we didn't stress over perfection.
That said, it took us away from our passion (theatre), took a lot of money, and involved a lot of contracts and out-dated social expectations we both hated (and didn't include in the wedding), and sometimes got way stressful (...don't ask about my experience with precana and the priest, just know we did NOT get married in the Church as DH originally wanted).
If you need to give yourself a break, do that. Event planning isn't easy.