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Expert June 2017

Do they get a thank you note?!

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laura, on July 6, 2017 at 10:27 AM

Hey! So I have heard a variety of things on this that vary quite a bit. We had some people come to our wedding and not give a gift (not complaining, just stating). They all happened to be local. My question is.... do we write them thank you notes for attending? My first thought is yes, write them a thank you note, they came to celebrate and spent their Saturday at your wedding, of course! However, I have been told that this could come across as asking for a gift. I would never have thought that. I do not want to appear that way. I just really want to say thanks for coming and we loved having you there. What is the thought here on this? Thanks!

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VIP October 2017
WW User · on July 6, 2017 at 1:38 PM
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No, no thank you card just for showing up.

If I was so broke I couldn't afford to give a gift at the wedding I'd damn sure bring a card explaining my happiness for them, or I wouldn't attend.
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TP2 · on July 6, 2017 at 1:41 PM
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My "thank you" is food and an open bar along with my dessert table and a photobooth with unlimited pictures. My handwriting is horrible and when the reception ends, I wont have the energy to do anything wedding related ever again. No thank you cards for me.
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Celia Milton · on July 6, 2017 at 1:42 PM
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The reception is a thank you (which is why cash bars/dry weddings are so hideous).

I'm a giant thank you note freak, but I don't think it's necessary....
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Maria · on July 6, 2017 at 1:49 PM
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We sent thank you cards to everyone who came to the wedding including those who gave us no gift. We both appreciated people taking the time out to come to our wedding, take a day of work, some took several as it was on a Thursday and made a long weekend of it. Weddings cost a lot to attend as a guest even without giving a gift. We appreciated that, I wrote individual messages in each card so I tailored the message to be appropriate.
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Constance · on July 6, 2017 at 2:47 PM
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The reception is your thank you for them attending your ceremony.
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