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Just Said Yes April 2018

Do I really need a flower girl & ring bearer

Deshan, on November 5, 2017 at 11:15 PM Posted in Planning 0 29

I'm a 2nd time bride planning a small wedding with approx 50 guests. My wedding party consists of my teen son and his two teen daughters. I will also have a MOH and he will have 2 additional groomsmen to even things out. My sister says I should have a flower girl and a ring bearer. What are your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Rachel, on November 6, 2017 at 10:25 PM
  • MrsLabrec
    VIP October 2017
    MrsLabrec ·
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    Whatever makes you happy! Smiley smile

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  • Suaneris
    Savvy November 2019
    Suaneris ·
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    Whats MOH ?

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    We had my grandma and grandpa as flower girl and ring bearer. We don't like children and had a children-free wedding so it was fun having my grandparents as our flower girl and ring bearer.

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  • Maria
    VIP March 2016
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    Nope you don't need them. It is completely up to you. Plenty of people don't have them. It's a personal choice.

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  • Leila
    Super October 2017
    Leila ·
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    Keep it simple, if you didn't plan on having them then let it be.

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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    No one needs a flower girl or ring bearer. You already will have 8 of you in front of 50 guests.

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  • MrsGtoBe
    Dedicated May 2018
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    I'm not having a ring bearer but I am having a flower girl. Honestly they aren't really an important part of the wedding. I think people just get stuck on traditions. If you don't have any kiddos in mind I wouldn't stress about it!

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  • Jennifer VR
    VIP April 2017
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    You can skip them. I only had a ring bearer because I had a young male family member I wanted to include. Otherwise I would have skipped both.

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  • ameretta
    Savvy June 2018
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    I am skipping the ring bearer because the only little boys on either side of my family (no young children on FH's side yet) will be two and I have yet to meet either of them. The cousin who will be my flower girl will be six and knows me and my FH so we decided to have a flower girl.

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  • Deirdre
    Super March 2018
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    It's whatever you want. We're not having either in our wedding party. No offense to anyone, but I personally hate children in the bridal party. They are too unpredictable, which is why we aren't having them.

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  • Bulbasaur
    Devoted September 2020
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    This is our first marriage and we aren't having them. We do have kids who could do it, but we want our party to be simple. We are only having a Best Man and Matron of Honour.

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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
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    We're skipping both the flower girl and ring bearer. No kids in or at the wedding.

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted October 2018
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    Last wedding I went to the flower girl threw a tantrum in the middle of walking down the aisle.

    For that reason- I'm skipping them.

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  • Melia
    Beginner April 2020
    Melia ·
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    If you don't want one, you don't really need them. My FH and I aren't doing a flower girl and plan for our ring bearer to be our fur-child who'll be walked by my brother (if he accepts and who will be 17 at that time). But if our venue will not allow our dog to be there then we won't have one.

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  • Annie
    VIP October 2018
    Annie ·
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    I'm not having either a ring bearer or flower girl. Do whatever makes you happy.

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  • Jill
    Expert August 2018
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    It's up to you. No rules. 2nd wedding for both here. Our sides don't match, and we're having two flower girls, my nieces ages 4 and 5, and our ring bearer will be FH's grandson, only 8 months old. Neither of us had FG or RB in our first weddings, so thought it would be a nice addition to this one. And they are the only 3 children invited.

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  • Millie
    Expert April 2018
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    I'm with @Windows! Do what you want! We are skipping all of that. We are having a MOH and one groomsman simply to sign the marriage license and hold the rings I guess. We are also having an adult wedding and reception

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  • Sarah
    Devoted February 2018
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    We're not having either or, and our wedding will be approx 100 guests with a bridal party of 4. I don't see the point in having kids in the wedding, I know some people think it's cute, but I've seen some unpredictable things happen...not for me.

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  • TXBride
    Expert September 2017
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    We don't have a lot of young kids in our circle but my MOH's daughter is 11 and adores H and was so excited to be a flower girl. No ring bearer.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    You don't need a wedding party at all. If you have one, you can choose who is in it. You're much better off having people whom you want by your side than thinking you need to fill certain roles.

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