Hi Lads and Ladies, I'd really appreciate your thoughts; good,bad,brutal.. let's have it as I'm slightly losing it ;-)
I've been estranged from my parents for several years. Long story short, my dad stopped talking to me when I went to live with my boyfriend during my late 20s (I'm now 40) because he's very religious and we were living in sin.
Iv did try over the years to make amends but he wouldn't budge. I finally stopped trying 5 years ago and in the process have lost my mum and sister ie they won't really speak to me despite trying to make amends last year when I reached out to them.
We were planning to get married last year, then COVID came, so post-phoned our wedding to this Oct. Hotel rang last month asking if we were still interested in going ahead. I texted my sister asking if she'd like to come. Her response was it'll be awkward if parents are not invited. I really want my sister there but not my parents. They haven't been part of my life for so long and if I'm honest, as we're having a small wedding, I just don't want to be playing happy families for the sake of keeping up appearances. If my sister doesn't comes, it'll just be my aunt and uncle who'll be family on my side. I also want to be fair to my fiancé. We've been engaged for over 4 years and the whole anxiety I face owing to family issues just keeps making me push out the wedding. So my question is do I invite my parents so that my sister will come. Have any of you who got married/getting married not invited your parents? How did/do you feel? If your parents didn't come, who walked you down the aisle? Any advice is appreciate. Thank you so much.