Do I invite my boss or not?

I didn't invite my boss. Why? Because I didn't want to. I need no other reasons.

I have 3 bosses and I am inviting them all with their wives and one coworker with her husband. The one coworker was my childhood best friends mother and I've known her since I'm 3 and she is the reason I got my job. I also have been there for just about 16 years by the time I get married (it is my first job and Have been fortunate enough to have many advancement opportunities). I could not imagine not inviting my bosses because at this point, it's more like family and I see them more than I am home.

I'm not a fan of inviting co workers and bosses. This is your personal life, not your work life, and few work relationships progress to the point that you'd still be friends if you didn't work there.

And I have a hunch that many people who are invited 'out of courtesy' would rather do anything else.

I would never invite my boss but then again I don't like her so... lol ETA some companies have strict "no fraternization" policies where the boss or supervisor could get in trouble for even interacting with a subordinate outside of work. FH's work is like that, he is a supervisor and not allowed to be Friends or even imteract with the people he supervises. So with that in mind I personally never would invite my boss or supervisor

You don't have to give a reason for your holiday. Just ask for the days as normal vacation (assuming you have the days). As a manager, I never ask what they're doing with their time off - it's none of my business. I just make sure I have coverage for them while they're out.

Idk how to reply to CD....

my bosses always ask the why, reason.

You: I need x days off

boss: ok, why? (poor form on their part)

you: I'm going to be going out of town for some fun and much needed time off

the end

don't enable the conversation further

Thank you CD.

Since it's a family owned I literary have to ask the owner of the company for the days off. I hate lying... I wouldn't like to say I would be out of town. (Female boss) knows I'll be having my wedding on September. I think they expect to be invited and I more than certain I won't.

I would say no if you're not close to them or feel comfortable with them at your wedding. I think it also depends on where you work and the work environment. Like if you work closely with your boss or the size of the company. Ultimately it's your choice. If you did decide to invite them, I doubt they'd stay at the reception long. I am inviting two co workers, but am on the fence about two of my bosses.

As far as how to ask for the time off, just ask. I'm sure they know that you're getting married and when. I don't think they'll be offended, unless you're close to them. I guess it depends on your relationship with them.

Nope, if you don't want them there don't do it.

It doesn't matter if your reception is held in a marble floored, crystal chandelier laden venue that is huge enough to host two black tie weddings at one time, or if it's cake in the parking area -- you are under absolutely no obligation to invite you boss. There are boundaries in our lives -- the most important is personal/family, and falling far behind is the professional world. Sure, lots of partners in law firms invite their superiors to their weddings, but isn't the rule.

If you are having a cake and punch reception, and even if you aren't, you are totally entitled to invite those people who have nothing to do with your full-time work schedule, but only relate to you personally (and for what it's worth, I had four "Yes" RSVPs who were no-shows on our wedding day -- his co-work and his fiancee, and my co-worker and her fiance) This is your choice, not their choice, and honestly, it's a business dinner for them.

I am sorry, I am taking alot of time off for my wedding. And I am not inviting people am not close too.. my boss and I keep our convo very work related, so there was no need to invite her to my wedding.

Bosses absolutely not unless you were friends with them outside of work! Obviously you aren't so no way!

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My boss is pretty nosy, so he constantly gets himself involved. I feel like he would get his feelings hurt, but I'm really just not sure I want him there. I feel like it would make me uncomfortable. Since this is his personality, and he was "gracious" enough to "allow" me to take 7 of my vacation days in a row since this is a "special circumstance he wouldn't normally allow", how would I handle not inviting him? (or any other co-workers, who I doubt would even care). I'm just afraid he would say something. how would I handle that?

Play dumb. Assume they arent fishing for an invite. If they already know you are getting married then just say you are sure even though the wedding is small and intimate you're sure you'll need a few days off to recover from everything. The end. I doubt they'll be so rude to ask where their invite is. Even if they jokingly ask where theirs is just say "I know, right? I wish we could invite everyone to celebrate!" And change the subject.