Do I invite my boss or not?

Here are my feelings on this subject: u r going to offend many people with the choices u make surrounding ur wedding. U will NEVER make everyone happy. Invite who u want to, invite who will make ur day better. U should not feel obligated to invite ANYONE (even family members) if u think they'll suck the life out of u or ur wedding. I am not inviting my boss, I am inviting one coworker & that's because he is a very good friend outside of work, too. I have been asked several times & have just said that my family is too big & takes up a mass amount of my guest list. Do not worry about offending anyone because u will do that already without even trying to. Good luck & congratulations!!

I do not think you are in any way obligated to include them. Even Co-workers unless you are friends outside of work should be shoe ins.

It's YOUR day and you should invite who YOU want to be there! Simple as that, my opinion.

Absolutely not obligated. I'm a teacher and plan to invite my department head and fellow science teachers, but I will not be inviting my principal. My FH will be inviting his "boss" because he is his PhD mentor and more of a father figure. It all depends on the relationship and what you want to do.

Definitely not obligated to invite them. Especially with such a small ceremony

I invited some former coworkers that I have known for years, but neither I nor my fiance have invited current co-workers. Don't feel obligated it's your day, and if you are not going to feel comfortable with those folks in your pictures, do not invite them.

I was wondering the same as my boss is also from the Caribbean and may consider it rude for me not to invite her. My co-worker had a baby shower (outside of work) and invited my manager to it even though they are not close. Luckily, she did not go. I'm thinking about inviting her and hoping she RSVPs no? Or maybe see if she pokes around for an invite?

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Honestly, I wouldn't invite them. I am not inviting any co-workers or supervisors to mine and don't feel guilty about it. I just don't feel like I would be able to let my hair down with all of them around.

Would you hang out with this boss on a normal Saturday night? If not, I'd say no invitation.

Um no need to invite your boss or anyone you don't want.

If you're not close don't invite them, this applies to everyone.

If you want to... you invite them. I'm inviting my boss and her wife because we've seen each other outside of work, actually he and my dad often go fishing together along another friend, so he also falls under the "parents guests" category as well, and the 3 coworkers we're inviting are also friends outside of work, one of them is mine and FH's former college classmate and actually I was the one who told her she was pregnant (she was afraid to look at the blood test result and asked me to look first)

I am having a moderately sized wedding and a few co-workers are invited but I am definitely not inviting my boss. Yes we get along well in the office but on a strictly professional basis and I would feel uncomfortable even sending him an invitation. Under no circumstances are you required to invite your boss much less if you are having a small wedding.

I think it depends on the relationship you have with them. I had two bosses invited them both, my DH also invited his boss. All three came. His stayed for the ceremony and meal and left not long after, mine who id know better stayed until the wee hours. Don't feel obliged to invite yours if you are not comfortable with it.

Depends on the relationship and the office. If it's a small team and you have a decent relationship, you probably should do it. But, I come from a land of 100+ guest list so it's pretty standard to include at least some folks from the office. If you are including other co-workers and you and your supervisor are on good terms, I'd probably say do it. But it's your guest list, so just as with any cuts remember it may lead to awkward conversations.

I honestly would feel very uncomfortable to have my boss watch me drink at my wedding. I would probably only have one glass of wine in fear that I might get too drunk and do something stupid for her to see.

I like to leave work at work.

It's all about what you want for your wedding though!

I am obligated to invite my big boss - she took me out to look for wedding gowns. But, I do not plan on inviting my other 2 bosses or team members.

If you have no desire or obligation to or relationship with this boss, then there is no reason to invite them out of courtesy.

Don't invite your boss. It would be different if it were a big event but your wedding is small and intimate and you shouldn't have to feel restrained on your day

The word is courtesy.

Anyway, I don't think you should invite them. It's a small wedding, you don't want to feel nervous and uncomfortable. It's not worth it. You have no obligation to invite them.

Wow ladies you have all been so helpful and thank you all for being so bluntly honest I appreciate it. Just one more question. I'm contemplating the idea of not inviting them yet I will be asking for a day off before the wedding and 2 after (wedding will be held on a Saturday so that's Friday, Monday and tuesday off) how do I go about asking them for these days off without sounding rude for not inviting them?