Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Just Said Yes June 2019

Do i have to serve dessert??

Flag
Hide content

Alyssa, on April 22, 2019 at 4:01 PM

Hi all! So I am definitely NOT a dessert person and I certainly do not spend a lot of my hard earned money on sweets. I have decided to completely skip the wedding cake all together. However, I don't even have the slightest urge to spend money on any kinds of desserts for everyone else to enjoy....

Hi all!

So I am definitely NOT a dessert person and I certainly do not spend a lot of my hard earned money on sweets. I have decided to completely skip the wedding cake all together. However, I don't even have the slightest urge to spend money on any kinds of desserts for everyone else to enjoy. But, EVERYONE is telling me that I must have some kind of dessert at the wedding. After doing some research, I am looking at spending close to $1,000 on desserts alone, which makes my wallet cry.

What are your thoughts on having no dessert at all? If you believe desserts are a must, do you have any low cost suggestions?? (Even S'MORES bars are expensive!)

Thanks all for your opinions and suggestions

Show all

43 Comments

Devoted October 2020
Kristin · on April 22, 2019 at 5:53 PM
Flag

Hide content
I would be bummed if there wasn't dessert at a wedding. I'm not a huge huge sweets person but I do feel like every kind of celebration should have a cake, cupcake, pie, cookie, etc. We're exploring the idea of not doing a cake either but rather a s'mores bar or chocolate fountain.
- Reply
Devoted June 2020
Sarah · on April 22, 2019 at 5:58 PM
Flag

Hide content
Do what you love! Fresh fruit, chips & dip, cake, cheese & crackers, etc. Make it your own!
- Reply
Devoted August 2019
Nichole · on April 22, 2019 at 6:05 PM
Flag

Hide content
Your wedding! Your rules! If you don’t want it, don’t have it.
- Reply
Devoted December 2021
Emily · on April 22, 2019 at 7:04 PM
Flag

Hide content
For low cost options, I would look at grocery stores or local bakeries. Don’t look at wedding vendors. You can buy bulk cupcakes or cookies from Costco or any other grocer or baker for a “party” at a much MUCH lower cost than any wedding dessert vendor out there.
- Reply
Devoted March 2019
Christine · on April 22, 2019 at 7:12 PM
Flag

Hide content
Sam’s club 3 tier cakes are only $70. Everyone loved them at our wedding.
- Reply
Tina · on April 22, 2019 at 7:28 PM
Flag

Hide content
How many guests are you having?

I am having a really small wedding and I am just providing cookies. I am going to have them wrapped separately and put them in baskets on a table and let guests help themselves.
- Reply
Just Said Yes May 2019
Kayla · on April 22, 2019 at 7:33 PM
Flag

Hide content
My thoughts are that this is your day and what you want is what you should get. Neither myself nor my fiancee like icing on the cake and we had several bakerys tell us that you have to have some type of icing. Well my mom is the one who's footing the bill and she said if I don't want icing then she would make my cake and anyone else who had something to say didn't have to come. This is my day to be pampered not for me to make others happy. Just my 2 cents
- Reply
Devoted August 2019
Nichole · on April 22, 2019 at 7:35 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Wow I never knew that!
- Reply
Devoted August 2019
Ali · on April 22, 2019 at 7:39 PM
Flag

Hide content
Ice cream bar
Candy bar
Cookies!
Donuts
Cupcakes
- Reply
Just Said Yes June 2019
Alyssa · on April 22, 2019 at 8:01 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment

Thank you for your input! I am definitely looking into something smaller for the sweet tooth guests to munch on.
- Reply
Just Said Yes June 2019
Alyssa · on April 22, 2019 at 8:02 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment

Love it! You were able to choose the colors?
- Reply
Just Said Yes June 2019
Alyssa · on April 22, 2019 at 8:03 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment

Love your attitude! Very inspiring
- Reply
Master November 2019
Mrs. S · on April 22, 2019 at 8:14 PM
Flag

Hide content
I would be super disappointed if there was no dessert. My wedding cake is $250, they also offer cupcakes for cheaper. We’re doing s’mores at the rehearsal dinner as well.
- Reply
Expert February 2020
Hermione · on April 22, 2019 at 9:24 PM
Flag

Hide content
I think you could go to Walmart for a nice simple cutting cake. For the main dessert maybe cookies? There are tiny pie places. Edible arrangements and have a giant fruit bouquet?

I really wanted to do a dessert bar idea with my groom but he hated cupcakes, pie, cookies, macaroons, cake balls, candy.... Etc. So we decided to go with bride and groom cake.
- Reply
Master August 2019
CourtneyBrittain · on April 22, 2019 at 9:30 PM
Flag

Hide content
While most guests will expect cake or sweets, that doesn’t mean its a necessity! Overall, the biggest thing is that you get married and are happy! Say you don’t serve dessert, odds are no one will remember within a few months. My FH and I are getting a small cake for the wedding party and then Costco sheet cakes for the guests. Cheaper than other options!
- Reply
Super July 2019
Crystal · on April 22, 2019 at 10:57 PM
Flag

Hide content
Were not serving any desserts lol.
- Reply
Expert September 2021
Kora · on April 22, 2019 at 11:07 PM
Flag

Hide content
At the end of the day it’s YOUR wedding.. it should reflect you and and your FH
- Reply
Expert November 2022
Megan · on April 22, 2019 at 11:12 PM
Flag

Hide content
Maybe a candy buffet? Like favorite candies or candies with cute/cheesy little sayings ( like look on Pinterest)
- Reply
Devoted March 2019
Christine · on April 22, 2019 at 11:26 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Yes! They have a booklet with all the designs and you can literally choose any color you want for your cake. I just went for the simple one. 😊
- Reply

VIP September 2019
CDickman · on April 22, 2019 at 11:31 PM
Flag

Hide content
I think you should serve something popcorn or cookies? In the end it is up to you but I do think guest will be disappointed.
- Reply