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Just Said Yes May 2018

Do i have to invite my brother’s in laws?

Sarah, on February 3, 2018 at 6:18 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 23

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Hello all! Just looking for an opinion on if I have to invite my brothers in laws to my wedding. My brother doesn’t particularly care for his MIL and his MIL HATES me. She and my SIL both throw shade at me any chance they can. My parents don’t particularly care for the In Laws either, but they think I should at least invite them. My dilemma is, they will come if they’re invited just so my SIL isn’t alone (since again, she hates our family). When I originally brought up not inviting them to my parents, my dad got really mad saying it would be disrespectful to not invite them. I’m having serious stress/anxiety over this and I’m looking for popular opinion/advice.
Thanks all in advance!

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Latest activity by Theresa, on November 15, 2019 at 3:47 PM

Master June 2016
Sarah · on February 3, 2018 at 6:19 PM
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You definitely don’t need to invite them, especially since you don’t get along with them.
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Dedicated June 2018
Jane · on February 3, 2018 at 6:21 PM
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I'm actually not sure what the etiquette is so I'm following this since I'm still deciding what to do about my sister's FILs.
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Dedicated June 2018
Sherika · on February 3, 2018 at 6:28 PM
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👀 following too
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Savvy October 2019
Noel · on February 3, 2018 at 6:31 PM
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I think it depends on who's paying. If you and your fiance are paying for the wedding, don't stress not inviting them. If your parents are paying for a major part of the wedding you should, out of respect for your parents and your brothers relationship. But don't worry, even if she's there throwing shade you'll be to busy enjoying your big day to notice.
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Just Said Yes May 2018
Sarah · on February 3, 2018 at 6:33 PM
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See that’s the tough part, my parents have given us some money for the wedding so I feel obligated. However, my fiancé and I are paying for 85% of the wedding ourselves. Soooo it’s kind of a weird situation.
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VIP May 2015
KiwiDerbyBride · on February 3, 2018 at 6:37 PM
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No. There’s zero obligation to invite them.
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Beginner May 2018
Sheilena · on February 3, 2018 at 6:50 PM
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Invite them and act as if there's no anamosity... Be optimistic and go in starting from a new slate, if possible. If you don't invite them you may regret it later on and that may cause you major guilt and further the issues amongst you. Hard decision but you do what feels right for you. Good luck!
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Dedicated February 2018
Samantha · on February 3, 2018 at 6:50 PM
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Is say you should invite the spouses of your siblings but nothing says you have to invite their parents. It’s not your brothers marriage, it’s yours.
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Caitlin · on February 3, 2018 at 6:52 PM
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Nope. I can’t recall anyone in my family ever inviting their sibling’s in laws to a wedding. I wouldn’t have even considered it.
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Courtney · on February 3, 2018 at 6:57 PM
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In my opinion you have no obligation to invite your brother’s in-laws.
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Devoted September 2018
kNrYwC · on February 3, 2018 at 7:23 PM
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I am not inviting my sisters in-laws or my brother-in-laws siblings. I don't think everyone ever expected them to be invited. I see them occasionally, and have no issues with them - but gotta cut back on guests somewhere!
(Also: I don't think my future sister-in-laws will invite my parents to their wedding, even though they have a great relationship, and that doesn't offend me at all)
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Expert May 2018
Mrs. Danihel · on February 3, 2018 at 9:08 PM
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I think it would be rude to not invite them.
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Devoted July 2018
AlyssaWynne · on February 3, 2018 at 9:42 PM
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I can’t imagine inviting my sibling’s in laws. They are related through their marriage, not yours.
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Dedicated April 2018
KelseyS2018 · on February 3, 2018 at 10:09 PM
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If your brothers inlaws aren’t nice to you they don’t deserve to be there for your day! It might cause more drama having them there than excluding them.

And if you’re paying the major half of your wedding then your parents should understand that the guest invites are up to you since this is your special day with your FH.

Besides since they aren’t directly or even closely related to you (they are just your brothers inlaws) then I don’t think that warrants an invite. If they aren’t nice and aren’t closely related then don’t stress.
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Master February 2015
Bethyonce · on February 3, 2018 at 10:11 PM
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Dont invite them.
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Super May 2018
Nikki · on February 3, 2018 at 10:21 PM
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I can’t stand my brother’s in laws (& his wife is questionable). I’m barely happy about inviting her haha. Their wedding was the last time I hopefully have to correspond with her parents. I wouldn’t invite your brothers in laws unless you are all close. Otherwise I don’t really see a point to it.
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GoodMOB · on February 3, 2018 at 10:30 PM
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You need to invite sister-in-law, but I wouldn't have even considered inviting sil's parents. That's just not a category that needs to get invited to a wedding, in my opinion.
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Devoted May 2018
Anna · on February 4, 2018 at 7:05 AM
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Don’t invite them. just don’t. if you don’t like them & they aren’t directly related to you or in your life really definitely a no.
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VIP October 2018
Kaye · on February 4, 2018 at 11:08 AM
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I don't think I would ever invite my siblings in laws based solely on that relationship.
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Dedicated March 2018
Jessica · on February 4, 2018 at 11:38 AM
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There is no need to invite your brother’s in-laws. If your parents keep raising a fuss about it, though, it might be easier to just invite them than to deal with disapproval from your parents.
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